Talk

Advanced search

Devastated after my Miscarriage.......

(5 Posts)
LullyMummaOfOne Mon 28-Jul-08 10:43:56

Hi All, i really feel that writing this down will help me come to terms with what has just happened so apologies if this ends up being a long post.

On friday 18th July i went in to have an early scan due to a strange pain in my left side (felt like really strong ovulation). As the ultra sound sacn was not picking anything up i had an internal scan and it showed an empty sac. The doctor said that at 8 weeks we would be able to detect a heartbeat and see the fetus but sadly none of these were present. They took lots of measurements and said that its more than likely the fetus stoped forming at about 4 weeks but my sac kept growing. I went in last Monday to have an ERPC and now im feeling really down and alone. My DH has been great, a real rock these past 2 weeks and my Son has kept me going the whole time. I am so lucky to already have a perfect Son.

I am just wondering how long it will take me to get ovet this emotional phase? Any advice would be great.

justjules Mon 28-Jul-08 10:50:55

i am so sorry to hear about your m/c

i could have wrote that post myself 2 years ago,

it is such a heartbrecking time sad

i did not deal with my 1st m/c well at all,

i was shattered by it,

all your emotions are normal at the moment,

i did get an amazing amount of support on here, and i also called the miscarriage assosiation when i needed someone to talk to,

keep posting when you feel down and there will always be someone who can help you get through the first few tough days and weeks

justjules Mon 28-Jul-08 10:57:55

trying again after m/c thread

lully, there is a thread for ladies who are coming to terms with m/c and trying again,

it was a lifeline to me, all the others understand exactly how you feel,

leave a message there, i think it will really help you smile

LullyMummaOfOne Mon 28-Jul-08 11:06:29

Thansk Justjules, i will have a look now. Im sure there are lots of others in the same boat.

teeheelaydee Mon 28-Jul-08 19:16:44

Lully - So sorry to hear what has happened. How long will it take - who knows? Probably longer than you think in my experience.

The thread that Jules posted is great as are many others here- support every step of the way.

It's hard to say anything without it sounding like a cliche but just give yourself lots of time. You might feel angry, heartbroken, jealous, guilty at lots of different times. All of that is OK. Just let it happen

It is a horrible horrible thing to happen and lots of people won't understand but some will and lean on them and so many on MN will have felt how you feel so lean on us too.

Everytime I read a post like yours, my stomach lurches - it takes me right back. (((((lots of hugs))))))

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now