Please help me-am i loosing my baby?(42 Posts)
hi there, appreciate you're all busy w/weekend etc.
i'm 7 weeks pregnant. have an 8 month old son.
i'm having a dark brown discharge which started yesterdat and is getting heavier along with pains and aches in my lower back/abdomen.
The epu is shut cos it's saturday. the ante natel ward won't see me. they said i have to go to a&e. what shoule i do? i want them to check if the baby's ok, but i dont think i can face sitting in a&e for 4 hours like this, esp with my LO.
I've heard so many things about MMC, blighted ovums, molars etc. i don't understand what some of them mean and i'm so worried that there's something wrong.
You need to get yourself to A nd E, I doubt because of the severity of the situation they would keep you sitting there for hours.
Go now! Good luck
go to a and e!! NOW!! im sorry to say it doesnt sound good though !! ill keep my fingers crossed for you though, hope everything turns out okay
go to a&e...if you mention what it is they'll see you pretty quickly (did with me). Fingers crossed it'll be ok but I would honestly not wait any longer than you have to..
if your worried go to a&e,i went when my ds stopped moving for quite someimte. As i was pg they saw me quite quickly. They may well send you to the labour ward to montior the baby.Im sorry i cant help more just didnt want you to go unanswered. I hope this helps and wish you the best. x
go to a and e you won't have to wait for 4 hours you will be seen as a priority. hope you have gone already and are not reading this.
yes a&e should see you quite quickly, they did with me too. go straight away.
So sorry but take the advice, can anyone look after your 8month old for a few hours. It would be better IMHO.
Well if you are with your Dh, he can help with your 8month old. Thinking of you.
sweetheart, when you get to A&E definitely mention the dark brown discharge.
of course it may be nothing, and of course i hope it is nothing and everything's okay, but a lot of people with ectopic pregnancies mention a 'prune juice'-like discharge so hopefully the mention of that will make them take you very seriously indeed.
if they don't... i'm afraid you and dh will have to raise the roof until they scan you as ectopic pregnancies can be really very dangerous indeed and you don't want one going undiagnosed. good luck.
I really don't think there is anything they can do for you. Usually, they just recommend bed rest.
It might settle, but it doesn't sound good from what you have said.
thing is starlight, at 7 weeks if it is an ectopic, then those extra two days could mean the difference between life and death. now, i know (believe me i know) that the diagnosis of ectopic pregnancy is not something that hospitals (especially A&E depts) are very good at, they do tend to want to leave it until the Monday etc, but she can't wait.
in your sad case it was a miscarriage, which is awful. but it wasn't life-threatening, and MrsB and her dh need to know which it is. that dark brown discharge should be a red flag to them, but a lot of A&E guys aren't that interested in gynae.
starlight, your doc was just lucky that your case was a miscarriage and he didn't lose a patient over his/her incompetence. it's a shame you were treated in such an off-hand manner and i'm sorry for your loss.
right MrsB. don't listen to the people who had miscarriages on this thread. listen to the people who had ectopics. we can afford to be wrong, they can't. sad to say, much as you want to hear that bed rest will help, it will not if the baby is in the wrong place.
as i say, i hope that it's nothing, and in fact there is a good chance it might be nothing (your symptoms can be explained by old blood, the loss of a twin, stretching of ligaments/scar tissue etc) but you need to have ectopic ruled out asap and you need to prepare dh for the fact that he might have to fight to get you scanned.
well, they will in all likelihood be reluctant to offer a scan as it's inconvenient. but if they honestly say that in the entire building there isn't one sonographer then they're lying. forewarned is forearmed, if she wants a scan badly enough, she'll get one. i did.
oh, and the not being good at diagnosing... that's why a scan will give a definitive answer. anything else is guessing at 7 weeks and she needs to know that. staying at home is really silly imo.
plus, you should ask the MNers on here who bled out internally while waiting to be seen in A&E whether they'd rather have been sitting in the hospital or in their bedrooms. there's at least two MNers whose doctors have informed them that they'd likely be dead if they hadn't been near the operating theatre.
I think to be honest it is the pain at 8 weeks that needs the scan rather than the bleeding.
GO TO A&E and ask to be referred to the antenatal ward if they refuse scan. explain your concerns. If you tell them about the pain, you are PG and express concern re ectpoic it is negligent for them not to scan you.
My ectopic was uncomforatble rather than painful, up to a certain point, but by then I had had the scan.
A&E are bad at diagnosing all sorts of things IME (because they are generalists). The trick is to INSIST on seeing the on-call gynae registrar. He or she should be perfectly capable of scanning for an ectopic at 7 weeks (andif not should call their consultant), even if the EPAU is closed.
Hope you're ok and that it is not an ectopic. Take care.
MrsBick's post is very similar to my situation, though at the moment i don't have any pain. I am pretty angry at the response from the NHS. I phoned the GP on thursday to tell her about it. She suggested "waiting to see what happens." So i did wait. By Friday night, the problem hadn't gone away, so i phoned NHS direct, using the number on the answer machine at my GP surgery. NHS then said they had no record of my GP surgery (!) despite me providing them with the full address and postcode. (!) (It's a very big practice with about 8 partners!)
NHS Direct then got a dr to phone me back who suggested i go to A=E, but he could not say whether i would be offered a scan and by this time it was late friday night and A+E in central London late on a Friday night is no joke. My next option is to wait until Monday morning for the "walk in surgery" at my GPs. If i'm lucky, i may be referred for a scan on Tuesday. So, five days of uncertainty, all because i've started bleeding over a weekend. Is this what our NHS should be like? it's frustrating how hard it is to get decent treatment "out of hours."
I just wanted to say that I hope things are ok. I suffered much the same in January this year, I was 11 weeks pregnant and had a brown discharge earlier in the week, on the sunday I started bleeding but didn't have any pain. I went to a&e and was seen within 20 minutes, a pregnancy test confimed still !! An internal said my cervix was still closed but they couldn't offer me anything else until a scan on Weds am at the EPAU. Unfortunately the bleeding got heavier and by the weds morning we knew we had lost the baby. The staff were very supportive and considerate and then we had to go home and for 3 weeks I was back and forward with retained products, bleeding and an infection. I really hope that things settle but if they don't and you have miscarried then don't let them just send you off to wait. My husband was powerless to help me and it just added to the whole nightmare.
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