After seeing heartbeat

[pattaz2711]

Hi
I'm not sure if this is the right thread I'm going through Ivf.. the baby hasn't grown in a week am measuring 2 weeks behind..
there is still a heartbeat, but my consultant has said stop an
Medication we don't think this is going to continue. I've read that once you see a heartbeat chances of miscarriage is rare.. but he's said he's certain I'm going to miscarry please would someone help if they have experienced anything like this after seeing a heartbeat.

[orangefolly]

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. It's happened to me twice, with IVF pregnancies. One time, the heartbeat was slow so we knew there was likely something wrong. The second time, it was a good heartbeat, great scan, but the fetus later just died, sadly. The consultant won't have told you to stop medication unless they are very sure that the pregnancy is not viable.

I'm here if you want to talk. I found the miscarriage board here quite helpful when going through it. Might be worth looking into some counselling as well, if that might work for you.

[Artesia]

Am so sorry OP. It happened to me too- saw heartbeat but it was slow and the baby wasn’t growing as expected. I thought all might be ok, but had a miscarriage the day before the 12 week scan. The baby had stopped growing at around 8-9 weeks. Will be thinking of you- it’s so tough x

[pattaz2711]

@orangefolly @Artesia
I'm sorry you have gone through this aswell I didnt know if to start a post or not.
Thank you I'm just sat on the sofa in tears not knowing what to do.. I'm not bleeding I'm not in pain.. I can't even talk to partner about it. I'm just trying to not think about it.. but this morning I literally can't stop. This is 2 failed ivfs now I don't think I can do it again..
It hasn't grown in a week but the heartbeat is still there. I've got to go back next week an be checked again
Thank you for replying

[DappledOliveGroves]

I'm sorry OP. We had two scans with my recent pregnancy - at 6 weeks and at 8 weeks and the heartbeat was fine. Found at at ten week scan that heartbeat had stopped and baby had died.

I'd also recommend the miscarriage board - as well as talking to friends in real life if you're inclined to. I've had such wonderful support this week from friends - so many women have gone through this - it's really been a lifeline.

[pattaz2711]

@all thank you for all your comments I don't even know what I'm feeling I try an talk to someone an it won't come out I feel like a failure..
I just get tearful.. it's the fact it's still not over as they have to wait for the heartbeat to stop, they've stopped all medication.. I keep getting angry it's like an emotional rollercoaster..
I'm
Starting to have pain this evening, still no bleeding tho..
So sorry going on

[pattaz2711]

The waiting is awful.. especially knowing I'm practically waiting for it to end.. it's horrible

[ItWasNotOK]

So sorry OP, when are you going back to the doctors?

[pattaz2711]

@ItWasNotOK they've told me to wait a weeek or 2 weeks to be scanned again..

[pattaz2711]

I've Been in today it's shrunk so just waiting for the hesrt to stop

[Artesia]

Am so sorry to hear that. The waiting is horrific, but I promise that you will get through this, and you will be ok.

I apologise if this is too much to think about, but even though i had read some threads on here to prepare me for what to expect, I was quite shocked when it actually happened- although I didn’t see too much, it was obvious when I passed the baby, even though it was tiny. I panicked as i wasn’t sure what to do, but am so pleased that we were pre-warned, and buried her (we never found out but am sure it was a girl) under a very special rose plant in our garden. My due date was late July, and the rose flowers beautifully at that time every year. The first year it made me so sad, but now it makes me smile and think of her each time I see a new rosebud.

I hope I haven’t said too much. Will be thinking of you xx

[chubbyhotchoc]

I'm sorry. Yes I saw a heartbeat at 8 weeks but lost the baby between 10-11 weeks. The sonographer told me that early scans are really just snapshots in time. What you see one day is not necessarily what you will see the next. It's very hard.

[Ranoutofgoodnames]

I am so sorry xx I don’t have any success story here but I know how awful the waiting is - it will pass though and if the news is bad you will survive it. Try to focus on each day rather than the next scan day xx

[pattaz2711]

Thank you for all you comments at my last eat scan it was 3.7 2 days ago it was 8.7 so it's definitely not good news by law they have to wait for the heart to stop they said. So that's what I'm waiting for an either pass it or on Tuesday if not gone I will go in an have a DNc
I'm had time to think I've had my tears an I'm prepared now. Life is shit at times but there is always someone who is worse off.
It wasn't meant to be..
thank you everyone for your support

[Ranoutofgoodnames]

I can only imagine how bleak it must feel right now - hold on you are strong enough to deal with this I promise xx

[NotMaryWhitehouse]

I'm so sorry @pattaz2711 , that is such an impossible situation and I really feel for you.