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11 days later - still bleeding and HPT says 2-3 weeks - scared of potential procedures (vaginismus)

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primrosechill Sun 03-May-20 20:58:58

Hello lovelies. I started bleeding and cramping on 22nd April, at exactly 6 weeks. I went to an EPU the next day and they could see a gestational sac in the right place but couldn't see a fetus/heartbeat - however, she said I was so early that she couldn't tell whether it was because I started to miscarry or because the fetus was too small to spot. They told me to come back two weeks later.

The next few days I tarted bleeding quite heavily and the cramping got me reaching for a painkiller every few hours, this continued for three days. My ClearBlue week indicator test has also gone down from 3+ weeks to 2-3, so I knew I was miscarrying.

11 days later and I am still bleeding - not heavily, but fresh blood and still cramping slightly. Also, clearblue has said 2-3 weeks for the past 10 days, I'm waiting for it to go down to 1-2 weeks and then finally negative for closure.... Just wondering if this is normal - I expected the bleed to be heavier and only take a few days. What were your experiences like? I suffer from vaginismus so my biggest worry right now is to discover that everything hasn't gone "naturally" and that I need any kind of internal procedure - transvaginal scans are a WORLD of pain for me, same with pap smears etc. sad Anxious all the time. Have my EPU visit this Weds.

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Lozz22 Sun 03-May-20 22:00:34

Miscarried at 9 weeks, mine was constant heavy bleeding for 5 weeks. Spent the Thursday morning in A&E as an out patient where the Gynaecologist cleared some blood and scraped some clots out of my cervix (this was before I'd actually had the miscarriage confirmed) went home and passed a few more largish type blood clots and the scan on Friday confirmed the sac had collapsed. Come the Sunday whilst I was talking to my BF on the phone whilst he was at work I had a sudden gush of blood and felt a huge clot come out of me, ran to the toilet and passed more large blood clots. Changed pad and went back into the room. Carried on talking and sneezed and blood gushed out soaking straight through a maxi pad, through my pj bottoms and onto my cushion. Shot back into the bathroom and another massive clot came out along with a load more. At this point I'd given up going back into the room so just sat on the toilet pushing clot after clot after clot out, sat freaking out because the floor is covered in blood, desperately wanting a bath because the pain is horrendous but know I can't and my shower is naff so pointless me sitting in the bath and running it over my tummy. By this time my BF is panicking like mad because he's 120 miles away at work. I'm panicking because I'm on my own in the flat and wondering if I lose consciousness how the hell do the paramedics get in when the communal door and my flat door are locked. Thankfully after around 8 pad changes in an hour and me debating whether or not to phone 111 because I felt like I was wasting their time it started to slow down a bit. Skip forward 3 weeks still continuing to bleed and pass clots and the test the hospital ask me to do is still positive, get told to test again a week later and although faint it's still there. Go for a scan and still have around 15mm
Of tissue inside me. Given the option of carrying on, tablets or D&c said it was taking too long naturally and a D&c was out. Took the tablets on the Thursday afternoon and on the Saturday night just as me and my BF got back from the shop I went to the toilet and when I wiped was a chunk of what looked like bloody fatty meat on the tissue. Because this was our 4th loss and the others I lost before 6 weeks there wasn't really anything to keep. With this one although it probably wasn't anything to do with our Baby we wrapped what came out in a plastic sandwich bag and buried in a planter and covered in soil. Although the pictures I took of it before burying it do look like a severely deformed embryo.

primrosechill Mon 04-May-20 07:58:30

Hi @Lozz22 thank you for taking the time to reply to me - your experience sounds horrible, so sorry you had to go through this.

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Ticketyboop Mon 04-May-20 08:03:30

So sorry to hear. I had insisted on an EPRC as my bleeding was going on so long, I was going insane. Finally a doctor took pity on me and I was booked in, just in time, as I was lising too much blood and had retained tissye which could have got infected. Could you insist on being treated?

primrosechill Mon 04-May-20 10:26:09

Thanks @Ticketyboop - I have my scat at EPU on Weds so hoping they will be able to advise then. The bleeding does seem to be almost non-existent today but I've said that before and then went back to bleeding a few days later. How long was yours before you got treatment? Did you opt for d&c or tablets?

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Ticketyboop Mon 04-May-20 11:54:29

I had a D&C as ultrasound showed quite a bit of retained tissue. I bled for about 8 days non stop, getting heavier

Ticketyboop Mon 04-May-20 11:55:16

Feels so wrong, leaving us in this horrible state.

primrosechill Mon 04-May-20 13:26:01

Hi @Ticketyboop - I know, I absolutely hate the waiting game - just wish there was some sort of definitive sign your body could send you to say "yep, that's it, NOW it's done." Today, for example, my bleeding has stopped but the cramping is pretty bad - gahhhh... CB weeks indicator still at 2-3 weeks (I have tested 4 times in the last 12 days, I should really stop - it's such a pointless and expensive habit, but I just desperately wanted it to go further down so I can have closure)

If you don't mind me asking, have you had any successful pregnancies or been ttc since?

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Ticketyboop Mon 04-May-20 13:54:24

Hi Primrosechill, yes - the obstetrician who did my EPRC mentioned that I needed to wait one period after the op (to make sure everything is cleared out) and then could try again - and I conceived almost immediately, so by the time I had my first child, I felt I'd been pregnant for a whole year smile I've had 3 kids since my MMC (when I was 36, 38 and 40).

Ticketyboop Mon 04-May-20 13:54:55

Good luck!!!

primrosechill Mon 04-May-20 14:02:17

I love hearing stories like that, thank you!! Congratulations on becoming a mum three times <3

Yes, I will also wait until AF shows up at least once, so hoping we can start trying in June again - I know in the grand scheme of things it's only a few weeks, but right now it feels like forever!!

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Ticketyboop Mon 04-May-20 14:32:29

yes, it feels that time slows down during these moments... I think having a miscarriage was one of the most miserable experiences I ever had, but looking back, it made me feel very much part of the female world (sounds a bit weird, but I felt connected to all those who went through this same thing over the generations and felt honoured to share this). Sending you many hugs and hope you feel better soon!

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