Miscarriage questions?

[Sarah1417]

So last Wednesday I went for a early pregnancy scan. At the scan they told me I was only 5 weeks when I had expected to be 7.

When I got home I had a light red bleed followed by 3 days of brown discharge. On Saturday this turned to light red blood still considered spotting but stomach cramping had started but was only mild. Cramping has continued on since Saturday and the red bleeding has continued on and has got darker and thicker. Until yesterday it was only when I wiped however once yesterday it was enough to drop a few droplets onto a pad and today the bleeding is heavier again and has again appeared when I wipe and a few drops on a pad.

I believe I am having a miscarriage but it is taking such a long time. I'll have been bleeding something whether it be brown or red for a week tomorrow.

Did anyone have a miscarriage like this ? How long did it last? How long did it take to start properly? Did you have anything like I've explained above?

Thanks in advance to anyone who can share their experience with me to help me through this sad time and for anyone who has experienced this I am sorry for your losses.

[VenusStarr]

Hi @Sarah1417 I'm sorry you're going through this. It does sound very similar to my first miscarriage. I had a similar scan and had been bleeding on and off since I was 6+3. It got heavier (but still brown blood) when I was 9 weeks (by lmp date) and I eventually miscarried at 9+4.

I did manage at home with pain killers and a heat wrap. For me the actual miscarriage started in the early hours with contraction like cramps and was over by lunchtime. Once I'd passed the sac I just had cramping and felt quite exhausted.

I'm so sorry this is happening ❤️ be kind to yourself xx

[Sarah1417]

Hi @VenusStarr thank you for responding. That is such a long time to be bleeding for before you lost your baby. I'm so sorry for your loss. I think I just want to know what is happening. I'm getting frustrated by it because its heavy in the day and tapers off at night to barely anything again and I'm finding I'm getting sore now as I normally would from wearing pads and wiping so much. I'm sure I will only her more sore the longer this goes on and the not knowing is driving us crazy.

I have had a successful pregnancy. My little boy I'd 2 years old now. We had very little issues. A small bleed at 8 weeks for 1 day. An early scan confirmed he was there and just a few issues with diabetes but nothing like this. I had hoped trying for another one would be as quick and successful as his pregnancy but It doesnt seem to be the case. :(

[Poppy10121]

Hi Sarah I am going through this currently and for me it was a miscarriage, I had spotting/light bleeding (only enough for a pantliner not pad) for 2-3 weeks. At first they said it was just implantation bleeding which didn’t seem right for the timings but eventually after 2 weeks they sent me for a scan which showed heartbeat so was sent home thinking all ok at about 6 weeks (should have been 7 but they said dates might be out). 3 weeks later bleeding started again and another scan revealed MMC. So all in all it’s over a month since the slow bleeding started for me. I guess I’ve just had an extremely slow miscarriage, now sped up with misoprostol since the scan confirmed no heartbeat.

I very much hope for you that you’re not going through this and I have heard of bleeding not being a big problem for many people, so don’t give up hope yet but if you are able to get a scan or appointment at EPU that will be the only way to know for sure. Good luck x

[mumoftoddlerandteen]

Hi Sarah. I just wanted to say that I’m in pretty much exactly the same position as you at the moment.

2 year old son, pregnancy was fine apart from one bleed at about 13 weeks which they didn’t make anything of and seemed to be a bit of an anomaly.

Supposed to be 7 weeks and 4 days today with my third (I have an older daughter who is 13!)

Bleeding for about ten days, started brown and then turned to dark and then brighter red. Some clots lost.

I had a scan a week ago during which they said I am either a lot earlier on in the pregnancy than I thought or that it may be an unviable pregnancy :(

They did take my hormone levels and I am going for another scan next week (cannot come quick enough :( ) and blood test but I’ll be honest I am expecting them to tell me I’ve lost my baby.

Have they offered you a follow up appointment?

Take care, x

[Sarah1417]

Thank you for all of the replies guys. It is helpful to know that others have experienced this and it is "normal" if you know what I mean. It does seem like it can take some time then for some people and I guess I may just be one of them too.

When I went for my scan they told me I was 5 weeks. From LMP I would have been 7 and a half so I had this feeling something was wrong but you never know with conception dates and stuff. But they really struggled to see anything at all and what they showed me on the screen didnt seem like what I'd seen with my son.

I have another scan booked next week and they have told me to keep the scan for confirm either way but I think I know in my heart of hearts this pregnancy hasnt lasted.

I just keep questioning why but ill never know. And honestly now I just want to have some answers even if they are bad just so I know what is going on.
@Poppy10121 I am so so sorry for your loss. It must be so much harder to see that heartbeat and then for it to go. My thoughts are with you :(
@mumoftoddlerandteen your situations sounds just like mine you are right. What date is your scan? I hope you are just early on in your pregnancy and you'll have a happy outcome next week.

Take care everyone. Stay strong xxx

[mumoftoddlerandteen]

My scan is on 22nd - so next Wednesday. I’m the same as you and I just know that in my heart of hearts it’s not going to be good news :(

Me and my husband have already cried about it and I am coming to terms with what I’m sure they will tell me. If I get a happy outcome I think I’ll be in shock!

What date is your scan sarah?

Stay safe xxx

[Sarah1417]

My scan is also on the 22nd. I've cried a lot about it all but I cant cry anymore. I have to accept that there was an ultimate reason this pregnancy wasnt viable.

My bf is upset but he isnt a talker and just sort of listens to my talk but he is extremely supportive.

I think I am mentally preparing myself simply because of having to go in and hear the news on my own. I hate that my bf can't come with me at all :( I need to be strong. I don't want to break down at the hospital. I want to walk in and tell them I am expecting bad news. And for them to confirm it and me to think. Okay now we know. Now we go home and we have answers and we can start to move on. I'm not sure if I'll be that strong next week though xx

[mumoftoddlerandteen]

Sending you hugs - this Covid situation makes it extra hard because you have to do it on your own at the hospital :( I felt so crap after my last scan I barely made it out of the hospital without fainting! Then I got in the car and my husband was trying to make me eat a biscuit as I felt faint and I was just like ‘p* off with your biscuit, I don’t want it’.

Will think of you this week, do you find some comfort in your little toddler? I find extra cuddles helps x

[Poppy10121]

@Sarah1417 and @mumoftoddlerandteen I wish you both good luck for 22nd. I know how tough it is to go in on your own especially when it’s bad news but don’t feel that you have to stay strong and hold it together. I completely broke down and the staff were really kind and gave me time to calm down and call my husband before talking through the next steps. But I hope that you both have a better experience xx

[Sarah1417]

I do find comfort in my toddler. I am so grateful for him! He is my little man and I love him so much. I dunno why but when I got pregnant this time I felt different. And maybe I dunno I always knew something was wrong. Who knows.

We cuddle a lot at the moment and he comes and gives me kisses on the cheek.

Yes the whole experience was really daunting for me when I went on the 8th. There were people in masks the sonographer barely talked me to and when I went to see my midwife for my check up with was really strict. So different to my pregnancy with my son and it really got to me. But I feel more prepared for next week having done it.

I want to be strong because there is nothing I can do about it but I am a fairly emotional person so I think when they tell me what I believe they will tell me then I think I will cry. So I'm going in without make up on this time as last week my eyeliner was all over the place and when your not meant to be touching your face it's pretty hard to not try and fix your face.

I suppose we just have to wait another week to see what happens now.

Are you still bleeding @mumoftoddlerandteen? Xx

[mumoftoddlerandteen]

Again, your experience sounds exactly like mine. The nurse was lovely but the Sonographer hardly said a word and I tried to make a lighthearted comment about how daunting it is coming in on your own and she didn’t even acknowledge it. I mean come on, you’re in the wrong job if you can’t be nice to people in situations like this.

Yes I’m still bleeding, it’s changed from the spotting to be more like a period. Probably only covering half a pad all day though.

Also felt like you when I fell pregnant, a bit different and kept ‘forgetting’ I was pregnant - does that make sense? It has made me appreciate my other two children a lot and made me realise how fragile life is.

Are you still bleeding?

[Sarah1417]

Its like we are on track. Mine is exactly like a period now as well. But not filling pads at all like you maybe half a pad a day.

If you dont mind me asking what hospital are you under?

Do you have any cramping? I still have light cramping but I have this heavy full feeling in the middle of my lower abdomen now too which is new?

I havnt had any big clots yet. I have had teenie tiny ones though. Yes thats exactly it. I didnt feel pregnant at all hardly any breast tenderness and didnt feel sick at all. Only thing that changed was I couldn't eat pork!

Yes I agree I suddenly realised how blessed I am to have my little boy. I knew I was blessed anyway but now I feel it more then ever!