Hi all, I know there's loads of TTC posts about, but I just wondered if anyone had any specific advise or examples on this? I had a mmc in Sept; baby stopped at 8 weeks but I found out at my 12 week scan. I am, of course, afraid of this happening again, but to be honest, my biggest concern at the moment is not falling pregnant at all!!
We conceived really fast the 1st time; maybe too fast as it took a while for my to accept, then for the few weeks i was starting to get excited it all came crashing down. We waited 3 cycles before TTC again, and I have just had my first period so unfortunately, no pregnancy. I know in the grand scheme of TTC, this is nothing! But I found myself totally obsessing this month about it, from food drink baths caffeine sleep stress etc etc and even about things to come like hen dos, holidays. I'm struggling to make plans for other life, like the above, incase I am pregnant at the time and its a waste of money, or I do something in the short term now that affects my chances of conceiving at all.
I am abit of a control freak which is something i am trying to work now (such as not googling every twinge and feeling in my body), but now my period has come, i am gutted and just feel like i am going to drive myself crazy, and not live a very enjoyable life, if I keep doing this! It's all consuming, and the irony of all of this is, prior to the first pregnancy i was so on the fence about having kids at all. My husband and I had discussed it on and off for years, and as i was 33 i thought i had better get moving. it feels like Karma is seriously biting me in the ass now...
Anyone felt similar, or survived similar! HELP! :) ps. i am waiting for some psychological support - i am actually a therapist myself so know alot and enough, but i recognise i need an outlet so this will be coming in the near future.
xx
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