I’ve recently posted something similar in ‘infertility’ but wonder if this is a better place for my post. I’m spending the day looking at options for a future pregnancy, just to give myself some hope, and I’d like to get some opinions.
I’m so numb right now, I could have been 20 weeks pregnant, announcing happy news to family and friends. Instead I’m struggling with my OH and can’t bare to be around is unsympathetic ass. I’m so sad about where we find ourselves and keep wondering what’s next for us.
In the last 3.5 years I’ve had 6 miscarriages. The first was a late loss at 16 weeks, since then I’ve had losses at 6, 8 and 10 weeks and 2 were chemical pregnancies.
We know that the babies we lost at 8, 10 and 16 weeks were boys. The most recent loss was in October and so it’s still very raw, and we plan to take time out for various reasons, but I’m just so scared for the future. I don’t think I’ve ever felt like I don’t know what the next step is. There’s always been some hope.
We’ve had almost every test imaginable, through the NHS and privately, and appear to have overcome problems with sperm DNA fragmentation as well as immune issues. In my most recent pregnancy I also took aspirin and heparin as despite testing negative for any clotting issues, there’s a clotting pattern to our losses. The babies never have slow growth or slow heartbeats. They’re developing well and then they suddenly die.
Our NHS clinic want me to add steroids and progesterone to my treatment if and when we’re ready to try again. Just to cover any potential immune issues.
Our private clinic want us to have LAD and DQ-Alpha testing to look at our compatibility though I think the LAD test just relates to me. They’ve also suggested a repeat hysteroscopy with implantation cuts to strengthen the uterine environment but I’ve previously had this and one of the chemical pregnancies happened the next again cycle. So it doesn’t fill me with confidence.
My partner is going to have a sperm culture test to see if there’s any trace of infection in his semen, something we both agree he should do as it’s not something we’ve tried before and if he has a possible infection we need to sort that regardless.
But that’s it really. More options. But no real answers. Just trial and error.
I should add that we have a healthy five year old DD, conceived without issue and she’s our absolute world, so every decision we make is made carefully and always with her in mind.
Right now I’m concerned that it’s all become too much for us and so I won’t be rushing into next steps, if indeed we take any. But I’d love some support with exploring options so I don’t feel entirely hopeless. Thank you
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ALifeMoreCurious · 31/12/2019 15:47
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