After my second miscarriage I was still optimistic and understanding of things people said around me.
Unfortunately after my third in September I'm growing tired of listening to people all around me complain about not sleeping or having too much to do or their lives aren't their own.
I long for this. I think it doesn't help that I started a course and every tutor (4 of them) said oh you'll be glad it's just one night a week not two so you can get back to your kids. Cue the laughter and jokes about the course being a break from it.
Got asked a few a few times this week how old my kids are. That's hard. And it comes as quite a shock to them ( I can't look them in the eye )when I say oh I don't have any for fear of crying. I must look old now at 32.
I really honestly don't have any anger towards anyone who has kids. I wish everyone who wants a family has one even if I can't but sometimes it really is hard.
Even right after my ERPC my nurse said to come for bloods in 6 weeks. She said oh come at 9am that way you can leave your kids to school first.... I just nodded to save her any pain plus I was just out surgery so I was a little loopy. Obviously when I didn't answer her with words she touched my arm and said oh do you not have any children? Honestly I don't think I've cried so hard in front of a total stranger. To the point two other lovey nurses ushered her away. I think I'll probably remember that clearly for my whole life. Again, I really don't begrudge people of their happy child full lives but it's so hard some times. I hope I'm not the only one who finds this difficult.
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People griping about their kids - upsetting
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futuredreams · 03/10/2019 21:23
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