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BlueMoon1103 Thu 29-Aug-19 10:41:04

I’ve had 3 miscarriages and am very lucky to have my Rainbow now but when I had my losses I thought there was very little in the way of support from hospitals. I’m thinking of starting to make some ‘Miscarriage Boxes’ that hospitals give out to women who have lost their baby with some sentimental items in to hopefully bring them some comfort and give them something to remember their baby by. I’ve got a few ideas of what to put in them but if anyone else has any please let me know! Thank you!

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CalmFizz Thu 29-Aug-19 10:42:54

I’m not sure if it’s the right place for a hospital to be involved in.

BlueMoon1103 Thu 29-Aug-19 10:44:45

It’s something I would have appreciated, especially those who lost their baby before they got a scan so have nothing to remember them by.

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itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted Thu 29-Aug-19 13:39:58

I've had 5 mc and 2 ectopics - I'm not sure what you would want to keep in the box if you miscarried before a scan....the pregnancy test? I'm also not sure I would want them to be honest - it's too visual a reminder of what we've lost. I did plant some forget me not flowers in a nice pot with my first mc though. My 2 ectopics because they were live we were offered a memorial service organised by the hospital at a local crematorium/cemetery and the ashes are spread on their baby garden

MrsMGE Thu 29-Aug-19 14:16:02

Hi OP, I love the idea. I created a keepsake box myself, I have my pregnancy test inside, scans, photos from the time when I was pregnant, I've also printed some lovely quotes and bought a little white bear to look after my little one. I think it's a personal thing, but I also would have appreciated an option to receive a keepsake/memory box, perhaps not from the hospital but from a charity dedicated to supporting grieving parents. Lovely idea xx

MrsMGE Thu 29-Aug-19 14:18:51

I wouldn't call them "Miscarriage Boxes" though, like I said a Keepsake Box or a Memory Box sounds a lot better. It's not about remembering the miscarriage itself, but about remembering the baby that we will never hold. Xx

turquoisebaby Fri 30-Aug-19 20:46:16

We lost our baby on Monday at 16 weeks sad We were given a wonderful keepsake box from a local charity. It has massively helped me, I have spent lots of time over the past 4 days looking at the stuff the midwives put together for me. Our box has 2 teddy bears, babies hat, a clipping shaped like a heart taken from the blanket baby was wrapped in, pictures of baby in blanket and with the bears, an organza bag with babies hand and foot prints, a certificate to acknowledge the birth, hospital tags with babies name and D.O.B on a tape with babies name and length on. It's so lovely. I've since added my pregnancy test and all our scan pictures.

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted Fri 30-Aug-19 21:22:54

I think its definitely a lovely idea for those who have lost babies after they have had scans, still births etc but otherwise there is very little to "keepsake" in a box - other than 1 my other 6 losses have been before 12 weeks and I've never liked to take weekly bump photos for fear of jinxing anything and so wouldn't want those kept - maybe have one for early loss (first trimester) and another for later loss (second and third trimester)

Perhaps a discrete charm and poem about loss being a loss whatever the length of pregnancy - I do have a little notebook I write in so maybe a blank one to write down thoughts. And perhaps some seeds to plant at a baby memorial garden at a local cemetery or at home (the ectopic pregnancy trust do seed packets)

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