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Weasel82 Wed 26-Jun-19 10:37:56

Hi all,

This is More to get my feelings out there. Sorry if it upsets anyone

On the 30th May I got out of bed and had a gush of brown blood when I was exactly 8 weeks, a scan that day confirmed the pregnancy wasn't viable and I miscarried a few days later naturally.

I had a scan on the 11th which showed I had retained products so I had misoprostol but it didn't work, I decided to leave it and see if it happened naturally and although I had a bleed at the weekend it didn't last long so went back on Monday for a scan which showed the tissue still there. I was given the tablets again yesterday morning but nothing has happened (I know there is still time) if they don't work it's surgical management under local

What is really getting me down though is that my hospital only do the operation on a Wednesday so next week. That Wednesday will be a VERY hard day for me, it marks the day that I found out my overdue daughter would be born sleeping 5 years ago.

I know the tablets will either work or they won't but the timing is so shitty. Don't know what else to say other than thanks for reading and I'm sorry for everyone who has experienced a loss x

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MrsMGE Wed 26-Jun-19 12:31:27

Oh crikey, lovely. I haven't been through stillbirth, but I lost my baby to MC 2 weeks ago. My local EPAU also does the ops one day a week and the wait is long, so I completely get that you probably don't want to wait longer than necessary.

On the other hand, I can only imagine how hard it must be to face having it done on such an important date. What a bloody awful coincidence, hard to believe. If I was you personally, I think I'd weigh up whether you would feel better waiting longer for the op or not and if you can cope with remembering both angels together on the same date. I can even express in words how hard this kind of decision must be for you. Lots of love and hugs xxx

I take it there is no way to e.g. have the op under general anaesthetic on a different date? Or have it in a different nearby hospital? Or to take a second dose of misoprostol instead?

There's also an option as you said, that misoprostol may kick in a bit later. Although I totally get this probably isn't much of a comfort to you now.

Sending you as many hugs as I can at this difficult time. You'll go through it and things will be on the up whatever happens xxx flowers

Weasel82 Wed 26-Jun-19 13:29:30

Thank you for your lovely reply @MrsMGE and I'm so sorry for your loss also

I have had 2 lots of misopostol now so I don't think they will give me anymore, I have never wanted to bleed so much in my life as I do right now, crazy I know! I have until 10am tomorrow for the tablets to work so I have everything crossed

I really don't want the op and especially not on that date but I also don't want to delay it anymore, I think remembering them together will be a comfort, I hope so anyway! Xx

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MrsMGE Wed 26-Jun-19 13:34:38

@Weasel82 Yes, I didn't want to make any suggestions in my post, but now you said that, I also think I personally would find comfort knowing that my angels are together and that I can celebrate having them up there on the same day. It will also be better for you to have it sooner, it will give you a sense of closure which is needed before you go to the next stage of processing your MC. I feel for you with two doses of misoprostol, not a nice experience to be going through (personally it was a horror for me so I feel for you big time).

Lots of love and please talk to us whenever you need to xxx

Laceygabriella Wed 26-Jun-19 13:53:49

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so hard especially when the agony is prolonged. I had a missed miscarriage myself 6 weeks ago. Medical management didn't work so I had a d&c (the surgery). To be honest the surgery was the least painful part of the process. It's horrid to think about but it will be over in no time. Please try not to worry too much about it. I'm so sorry about the hell you've gone through. The only way is up. Xx

TM1979 Wed 26-Jun-19 14:46:04

I’m sorry this is happening to you. I’ve just had my third mmc in 2 years so I know how you feel. The first two happened at home at 9 and 7 weeks but this one was only picked up at 11 wk scan. I had a D&C a week ago and it was such a sad day. I was petrified of the procedure which itself isn’t that bad but just all the waiting around and feeling so sad is awful. I had a 5 day wait too between finding out and the op and I was just in limbo those days. The timing is really shitty for you heart goes out to you. Maybe if you can’t rearrange it just try and take comfort that you can remember them both on the same day together.

Weasel82 Fri 28-Jun-19 15:55:49

Thank you all for your supportive messages, sorry for your losses x

Just an update. The 2nd round of tablets didn't work, not even a drop of blood, doctor wanted to do a pregnancy test in case I missed it (the remaining tissue is really small) so I'm booked in for an MVA on Wednesday,, scared, sad and relieved all at the same time!

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