@JessyClaireS Reading your post made me very sad. I'm so sorry you've been through this, and that you're feeling like this now. My first thought was that your partner must think that you are a very brave, strong woman after you've been through this and he's witnessed it. You need to realise that you've given birth, sadly not in the circumstances that we all wish for, but you've done it! You've gone through early labour. There is nothing, and I really stress this word, nothing about this, that should make you feel like you've lost your dignity. On the contrary, it's a huge, huge achievement and a testimony to your strength.
I've been through it a week and a half ago. My husband said he has never felt so helpless watching me and that the fact that he couldn't do anything has traumatised him. He was also angry at how poorly I was treated by the hospital. But I can reassure you, no man in this world would find you less attractive after something like this. Talk to your partner and I'm sure you'll find out that he probably felt the same and perhaps he doesn't know how to approach you about this. It's such a sensitive time, we are feeling fragile, shocked, upset, we're grieving, our bodies and hormones are all over the place. It's not easy for anyone around us either.
But please, please, give yourself credit that you massively deserve after what you've been through. You're a beautiful lady and a beautiful person
On a personal note, I'm trying to be cheery all the time, but I'm having a bad day today. I am full of sadness and grief. Just not in a mood for anything, dreading going to work tomorrow. But it is a bad day, it will pass.
For days after my MC I felt awful, I was crying my eyes out that I'm the fattest I've ever been in my life (progesterone kicked in big time during my pregnancy and also I literally lived off carbs as could not stomach anything else). I never felt good about my body in my life, even when I was a size 8 (I'm a fat 12 or a 14 now). I thought because of this I would end up having another MC cause I won't shed it fast enough before TTC again. I was devastated that I couldn't exercise cause I felt so poorly. I thought I may not even succeed in conceiving when all I heard was that you "should go for it within 6 mths after MC" . Vicious circle. Honestly, the things that go through your mind are horrible sometimes. But they simply aren't true. We need to reign those horrible thoughts in, in every possible way, otherwise we'll stay in this very dark place which doesn't help us in any way. I keep distracting myself and now I'm slowly back to exercising and eating better. I chose not to put pressure on myself and I do little things every day, walk more, go for a short run, do some gardening. Every little helps. The weight is dropping, surprisingly quicker than I thought.
I think we should have massive respect towards our bodies after what we've been through, I am pretty amazed we did this and bounced back afterwards. So please don't feel bad about yourself, you really are amazing ❤️ xxx