Bleeding seems to have stopped

[Kayjay2018]

Hi, you were all very kind when I posted earlier this week about my miscarriage.

Can I just ask how long people bled for? This has been a natural miscarriage at about 6 weeks. I started to miscarry at about midnight last Sunday morning and today it’s down to almost nothing? Is that normal? Test this morning is still showing positive as expected.

Should I worry that I have only bled for about 5 days?

[VenusStarr]

I miscarried naturally 2 weeks ago. My bleeding lasted a similar amount of time. I was still testing positive on Monday this week but yesterday it was very faint so counting that as negative. I was 9+4 but baby was only 5 weeks.

Sorry this happened to you x

[Lovestruk]

I have been bleeding now for 11 days, yesterday and today heavy with contractions and clots. I think it's different for every woman and the pregnancy hormone can remain for some time. I haven't taken a test but I imagine I'd still test pregnant and am not sure it's over yet.

I've read about woman who have stopped and started again. Do you have a follow up scan? I have one next Tuesday and am hoping everything has passed by them.

I hope you are alright it's a tough time xxx

[Kayjay2018]

I’m sorry you are both going through this too. I don’t have any scan in place (I had seen epu two days before I miscarried and baby was a few days behind where I thought, but all looked good and we saw a heartbeat). I haven’t seen anyone since, spoke to epu and they just said to test in two weeks and call them if still positive, my doctor reiterated the same when I spoke to him. Bleeding was heavier than a period on Sunday, like a heavy period till Wednesday, lighter yesterday and non existent today. All my symptoms had gone by mid Sunday (sore boobs and sicky feeling).

[Lovestruk]

I'm sorry too Kayjay2018, I have scan Tuesday which will make it two weeks since I've seen epu, they confirmed no heartbeat and gave me pills which I didn't take, wanted to do it naturally. It's been a long wait. They made my follow up appointment on the day for two weeks time when I seen them. I would call them if you think it's all over and ask for appt to make sure everything has passed. It's infection I would be worried about from left behind tissue. Big hugs x such a horrible time xxx

[Kayjay2018]

To be honest, I haven’t found dealing with epu that great, both times I left voicemails as requested they never phoned back and I had to get gp to chase them. They were lovely when I was there and got my reassurance scan. I suppose I will see how things are when they reopen on Tuesday, it will have been 9 days since it started. I think I will get a few more tests and see if things are fading on those which might add a bit of reassurance that things are going in the right direction.

It probably sounds awe full, but I feel I need this physical part over to help my heart start to heal. At the moment every bathroom visit is a reminder or a worry.

[Lovestruk]

I understand Kayjay2018 I'm sitting on the loo as we speak, in agony for the last half hour just want it over now xxx

[Kayjay2018]

Lovestruk, I’m so sorry to hear that, I totally understand how you are feeling right now. This has got to be the worst thing that has happened in my life. I kind of camped out in the bathroom most of Sunday and Monday.

I’ve got my head into a slightly better place through this week. Among my own little memory box, with appt letters, luckily I had a scan photo, my positive of tests, a pair of baby socks in or. Then I’ve knitted a tiny blanket and teddy (got the pattern from the internet) and am going to find a lovely box to put them in.

No one else knew about my baby, but it was there and growing inside me and I want to be able to remember that for those few weeks I loved it so very very much. I’m going to buy a nice box to put the bits in and make myself a matching bear to go on my key ring so I can carry it with me.

Be kind to yourself xxx

[Lovestruk]

Your post made me cry kayjay x I too want to do a box. I was so worried about the baby passing but I actually want to bury the little bean if I see him with this little finger puppet my partner bought for me at Christmas (I have a bit of an obsession with monkey teddies).

I understand what you mean when you say only you know the love you felt I felt it too and yes it's probably the most traumatic thing in my life.

The bear is a lovely idea :) I was thinking I might get a tattoo. If you want to talk I'm here I feel like nobody understands me tbh and I hope I gain some strength like you have soon xxx

[Kayjay2018]

I’m sorry it made you cry, I wrote a little diary from when I found out I was pregnant through to last Sunday, sobbed my heart out putting the pieces together but have strangely felt calmer since.

I thought about a tattoo, then remembered I’m a wimp so am making this keyring.

I hope you got some sleep last night, I think I went about 36hrs with no sleep on the worst day and felt like a complete zombie.

[Lovestruk]

Don't apologise it made me cry because i could have wrote it minus the knitting haha. I've had tattoos and have almost fainted every time but I think it will be worth it for the little one.

I don't sleep really and walk around like a zombie most of the time. Have you gone back to work? How are you today xxx

[Kayjay2018]

Sorry I haven’t replied earlier, went out for the day with my husband an two dogs.
I’m feeling less zombie ish the last few days but emotionally today’s not been as good as yesterday, I’ve got through it but with a lot less patience than I normally have. I haven’t been back to work, when I had a cal with the gp on Tuesday as I hadn’t heard from epu he signed me off till next Friday, I think I will be ready to go back after that. I didn’t want to be contemplating work with still dealing with the physical effects of a miscarriage and think next week will give me a chance to sort my head and self out and be ready to start afresh the week after.

How are you feeling today?

[Lovestruk]

Ah I'm glad you got out for a bit :) I'm still stuck to the bed and in a lot of pain. Ive eaten three Easter eggs in the past three days I figure the sugar might help me because of all the blood loss. I'm exhausted tbh and just want to sleep. I'm "due" back to work Tuesday but have epu @ 9.30 on Tuesday and was thinking I'd go straight to work after but at this rate idk what's gonna happen. Did you go anywhere nice with the dogs?

[Kayjay2018]

Oh bless you, make sure you keep an eye on any bleeding and go to a and e if you are needing to change pads more than once an hour.

As for the Easter eggs - I say if you fancy eating anything right now then just go for it. I didn’t fancy much at all so totally went by instinct of if I saw something and thought yes i could eat that, then I did. If most women (and I include myself in this) enjoy chocolate at certain times of the month, then you eating 3 Easter eggs is totally logical!

It’s good to be getting some fresh air, I didn’t leave the house at all Sunday to Wednesday, and when I did my eyes are drawn to all the pushchairs and pregnant women everywhere. The first time I went out was worse, it’s better now. I found it tough to see that everyone else’s lives were carrying on as normal and my current life and dreams for the future were shot to pieces.

Today we took our two dogs for their usual work and managed to get our youngest dog (he just turned 1 and we have had him 4 months) to swim to fetch a stick. It made my heart melt. Then we popped out to a couple of market towns but my heart wasn’t really in it.

Re work, you have to listen to your body, heart and mind. No one can tell you what to do. My gp was good and I think he would have given me longer if I asked, he has also said I can return to work earlier if I want. I’m not usually the sort that takes any sick leave, hubby has advised to take it all to get myself completely straight. It probably safer career wise for me to do that than have a crying meltdown with people who don’t know what has gone on.

Re your tattoo, if you look on Pinterest, there is a lovely tattoo a lady designed (it might not be your thing). I copied the design onto a rock and will have that in my bedroom. It’s kind of a line drawing of a woman’s body that goes round to include a baby and two hearts, hers and the child’s. give me a shout if you can’t find it and would like to see it and I will see if I can send you the link.

Have you managed to ease the pain at all today? Are you seeing any physical improvements in how you are feeling?

[Lovestruk]

Yes do copy the link kayjay I'd like that :) the bleeding is heavy but only extreme four times so far where it scared me and tbh the last place I want to be is a maternity hospital even the thoughts of Tuesday kills me.

The pain now is dull but it's like I know its not over I can't explain it plus everytime I think it's over it happens again a few hrs later. It's quite scary the amount, I never would have expected it to be so bad. I don't find nurofen plus doing anything for the pain and usually I'm very drug sensitive I have some tradol there if it come on bad again.

I'm sorry you had a bad time today it's gonna be so tough for a long while I imagine I found myself crying earlier looking at a pack of baby wipes while sitting on the loo. It's just the nature of the situation I suppose :(

Physical improvement? Do you mean my body going back to pre pregnancy? If so yeah and I'm finding it hard to be naked tbh and see hardly any sign of it anymore, I was showing quite early I'm a skinny girl so it was very obvious, god it's just so emotional x have you had anymore bleeding today or is it tapering off now? Xxx

[Kayjay2018]

I’m finding things easier now I’m home. I had a bad headache so went back to bed, my DH went and grabbed some food from the supermarket but I’m not hungry.

I’m lucky no more bleeding today, few niggly cramps but they have not produced anything so hopefully everything.

Hopefully this is the link to the tattoo
www.google.co.uk/search?q=miscarriage+tattoos&tbm=isch&ved=2ahUKEwiMndvSvd_hAhWo8IUKHQEWArkQ2-cCegQIABAC&oq=miscarriagetattoo&gs_l=mobile-gws-wiz-img.1.0.0i13l5.4525.9167..10198...0.0..0.74.1204.21......0....1.........0i7i30j0i67j0i10j0.nO_hsVzIBMk&ei=JX27XMz2I6jhlwSBrIjICw&bih=719&biw=414&client=safari&prmd=isnv&hl=en-gb#imgrc=ciucOqp24YOk5M

[Lovestruk]

That's lovely kayjay :) I hope your head feels better soon and do try to eat something xxx

[Kayjay2018]

Hi lovestruk, wondered how you are today and if you went back to work?

[Lovestruk]

Hi kayjay I'm feeling rough and no the hospital gave me another two weeks note but I'm going to try go back tomorrow. My temperate seems to be up and down and I have like a thumping in my ears so I'm going to visit GP today and if I'm up to it go but a lil box for the baby things x how are you doing? Have you been eating? Xxx

[Kayjay2018]

I’m sorry you are having a really rough time of things. Definitely get yourself to a doctor, the temperature doesn’t sound good, even if it’s not related to your loss, now is not the time for you to be getting sick with anything else.

Im feeling stronger today, picked up my doctors note yesterday (didn’t get there last week) and he has signed me off till 5th may. Im just finding out whether work will let me back before then or note (they are a bit funny like that).

I still haven’t found the right box for my baby bits, am going to take myself out for a drive today and have a wander around and see if I can find something suitable.

I am eating - hubby went shopping and got me loads of naughty food to tempt me, so appetite is back. He went back to work and my son to school yesterday so house was empty. Had a bit of a cry and a major room sort out(good to be busy).ive done a few hpts- clear blue easy read is only showing very very faintly but boots digital still says positive. I’m hoping they will be back to zero by Sunday which will be two weeks.

We have decided to just start trying again, age isn’t on our side as I’m 38 in a few weeks and hubby is 51.

Let me know how you get on at the doctors, I hope they see you.

[Lovestruk]

Hey kayjay doc checked me over and said everything fine, he just said that because it's a mmc and taking so long I could get an infection from stuff no coming out quick enough so to keep and eye, I'm still bleeding so maybe should have took D&C yesterday but he just said if I keep feeling ill to go hospital. I've bought digital temp and my temp seems fine now.

I'm a. It like that with the box I looked on amazon but I want something nice, where do you live Kayjay? If you want to tell like.

I haven't taken any pregnancy tests and just have been relying on epu and scans to make sure things are going the way they're meant to be and all is complete before I even dream of moving on to the next chapter of my life.

I'm glad your eating x even if it is just crap I've ate a lot of Easter eggs and chocolate it's weird I went off chocolate when I was pregnant and here comes the tears god does it ever get easier to talk about it xxx

[Kayjay2018]

Thank goodness you don’t have a temperature any more, and it’s good that he has been clear that you should go to the hospital if u feel Ill again.

I’ve ended up getting a box from tk max. It’s a gift box really, so not obviously baby related, it has the night sky and stars on it. Sods law it’s too small for some bits but I will make it work

I’m only doing the tests as I haven’t seen epu since I miscarried, they just told me to take a test in 2 weeks (will be this Sunday). Everything feels out of control so by taking the tests I’m reassuring myself that my hormones are reducing. If I’m aiming to get pregnant again I want to know I got a negative first. I have also been temping and using opks to get this far. Opks are negative, though today looks slightly more than yesterday so there is a slim chance of getting pg again soon.

I live in Sussex, where are you from?

Be kind to yourself about the tears, you are grieving, it’s a natural response, plus hormones are a pain too, they make you wobbly too. I cried in the car today listening to the radio. A bit came on a song with the lyrics “remembering what you had and what you lost”. So you are not alone in crying x

[Lovestruk]

The box sounds lovely kayjay

I'm from Dublin

Please make sure you have a scan I've spoke to so many girls now with tales of woe. I'm back in two weeks again make sure everything passed or if I need sooner, I'm still bleeding though but getting lighter and she said yesterday there's some left to pass but not like I've had the last week and it does seem to be going accordingly slow and painful as that maybe. But please insist.

Haha I've just posted on another thread that I've not made it to luchchtime for 24 days straight without crying and whether I should take extra fluids to counteract this x I just don't want to be like that in work ye know.

What do you work? again if you want to say. Xxx