Thank you for replying.
Bare with me it's a long one.
It's such a long story but so many digs have been thrown in my direction regarding how I've coped with things.
I went through a little stage of wanting to hide away from the world, this is with my first miscarriage. It was such a awful experience as I left it really late to get to the hospital and ended up being admitted due to the amount of blood I lost. I became very poorly very quickly. Everyone tried their best to support us but they admitted they just couldn't understand what we was going through. I appreciated the effort though.
After this I was so heartbroken and locked myself away. I did return to work a week later and tried to get on with my life.
I then had a second miscarriage, during this time. my sister in law told everyone she was 12 weeks pregnant ( the whole family knew but they all decided it wasn't a good idea to tell me)
So everyone kept this huge secret for 3 months, I eventually got told and was happy for her of course. However her reaction towards me was " I've not been able to enjoy my pregnancy because your misscarriages, no one wants to be happy for me etc"
I felt awful for her that she couldn't enjoy her pregnancy because my losses so went to see my in laws. They told me that they basically they couldn't enjoy it because they was concerned about me, that only they knew about the pregnancy and her and her husband.
It was a really hard time, they all lied to me a lot and eventually we had a big family falling out, I was heartbroken as never fell out with my partners family before.
I end up finding out that the whole family knew including my young nieces. Who at any given time could of mentioned it. Everyone knew and everyone hid it. I just felt really upset. They explained that they was just trying to protect me and I accepted that.
Then this evening my partners mum has now come at me for sending a text message, she seems to interfere with a lot and I simply asked her lot to.
She basically was trying to organise a family holiday for her birthday.
I said I would message my work due to being off currently ( I've just had a ectopic 4 days ago) I messaged my manager and let her know in the morning.
She then went and messaged a manger who works at my employment ( her niece) the thing is - I've really been trying to keep my work life and home life separate for so many different reasons. I asked her not to do this in future as it wasn't fair on my work place to feel pressure of my mother in law to let me have time off work.
My work said I couldn't have it off as too many people was already off which I understood, my mother in law was upset because she thinks I should be aloud it off and Really doesn't understand the whole job situation.
She blew it out of proportion saying I needed to always be careful round her. That I'm always saying wrong things.
Also she really had an opinion on mine and my partners reaction towards our misscarriage and how we coped with it as a couple.
I feel like everyone's on at me and I can't do anything right. I've only just come out of surgery 4 days ago for an ectopic pregnancy. I've not been feeling well and my partner only seems to care about how his mum is feeling.
There so much more to this all but it's just such a long story.
Am I in the wrong here?