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Feeling really emotional today

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sophied1983 · 11/03/2019 13:14

Had SMM on Friday after two weeks of bleeding (pregnancy was still in there).

Went into work today and felt really irritable/distracted. Then my manager suggested I go to a meeting with her and I burst into tears on the way for no obvious reason. On my way home now :(

I can feel fine and quite positive about trying again one minute (and able to talk about it all) and then the next, I'm struggling to hold back the tears whilst on a packed Tube.

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FlapJackered · 11/03/2019 17:07

@sophied1983 I am sorry for your loss. Flowers
I miscarried naturally a week ago at 7 weeks. I have been exactly the same. One day I feel fine and the next day I fall apart. I consider myself quite a strong, positive person but I have found it really difficult. If it helps I think it is completely normal and I don't think the hormones help.
Can you tell your boss and take some time off work? I think it is needed to give yourself time to pick yourself up. x

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sophied1983 · 11/03/2019 17:30

Yes - I'm normally pretty resilient and take things in my stride but that has floored me. It's been dragged out over quite a few weeks too which I guess will take its toll too.

Luckily my manager is very understanding (she has been through it herself).

Had a big ol' cry when I got home earlier and been asleep all afternoon on the sofa. It was only Fri afternoon and I imagine even the general anaesthetic would have some impact (never had one before).

Sorry to hear you've gone through it too :( it's like membership to a really awful club :(

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LillyLeaf · 11/03/2019 20:06

5 weeks after my MMC I still have some really emotional days. Anything can set me off. I don't know when it will pass but it is getting better. Look after yourself

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Badgerbird · 11/03/2019 20:29

Oh my goodness @sophied1983 no wonder you feel emotional it was only Friday! I had my D&C Weds night, got home Thurs afternoon and I'm back to work Weds. I was going back tomoz but I'm shattered, emotional and still feeling a bit nauseous from hcg levels I guess and I always rush back after these (my 4th MMC) so this time I'm just being a bit more kind to my self. Please look after yourself and let others look after you too. Good to hear you have a supportive boss and I totally understand work can be a pleasant distraction too but do give yourself time to heal and grieve, it can come in waves Thanks

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sophied1983 · 11/03/2019 20:34

Your fourth... wow... that must be tough. I can't even begin to imagine.

I'm usually someone who just gets on with things, it feels weirdly self indulgent taking time out... even though I know I need it.

As you say, it was only Friday. I need to cut myself some slack.

Got home and had a proper cry as was alone. Hadn't really done that - trying to hold it in so as not to upset my other half or my little girl. But I had a proper sob... think that helped. And then slept for three hours!

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LessLivid · 11/03/2019 20:37

Lord, I was signed off by the hospital for two weeks. You really needn’t be at work so soon x

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Singapore123 · 22/03/2019 16:59

Hello. I had a miscarriage two weeks ago and it has hit me really hard. I was 8 weeks pregnant and it all came on really suddenly. I had to go to the hospital to have it taken out (not a d&c) and then was given the tablets as it was an incomplete nisccariage. I am finding it really really difficult. I have good days and bad days and today is one of those bad says. It hurts emotionally so much. Any tips on getting through this?

I also work with children so that can be difficult sometimes.

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sophied1983 · 30/03/2019 19:56

I am now 5.5 weeks since we had the sad news... and I feel so much better. It still sucks majorly that it happened and I feel this whole year so far has been tainted. But it gets easier, promise.

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