Miscarrying (again) at 5w5 - a few questions

[ronniemipperton]

Hi all,

As per title - started bleeding last night, was fairly light so I was worried but still went to work today. It’s become very apparent this pregnancy is not happening.

I had a MMC in July at 10 weeks so this isn’t entirely unfamiliar, but I had an ERPC before I started bleeding that time, so I’m not sure what to expect this time around.

A few questions:

-I’m supposed to be working tomorrow - today has been like a very heavy period, which is unpleasant but not entirely unmanageable. Unfortunately work tomorrow does involve a two hour train journey (I am a bit scared of the toilets being out of order) but if it’s the same level I can probably handle it. I’d prefer not to bail on work if I can help it - emotionally I can handle it (I cried at a couple of colleagues today and am admittedly a bit of a mess on the way home now but think I’ll be OK tomorrow). Is there any way of knowing if tomorrow is likely to be much worse? I don’t know if the bleeding is likely to start ramping up/be painful at the same time. I’m supposed to be running a session with a colleague and I don’t want to leave her in the lurch if I can help it.

-As nature seems to be doing its thing this time around I don’t really see the point in going to the doctor or EPU - is that OK? Or should I make an appointment to check everything has gone after I’ve stopped bleeding? (I do want to let my doctor know it’s happened but this is miserable enough without having to wait around for hours in the EPU, I’d prefer to get on with things as far as possible.)

-Any guesses at how many days of bleeding I’m in for at 5w4?

Solidarity to everyone on these threads. It truly sucks.

[PencereTencere]

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

I miscarried at 6 weeks a couple of years ago and had 3 days of heavy period style bleeding. It was manageable physically. Hopefully this will be similar, but do keep an eye on the bleeding and make sure you seek help if it gets too heavy.

I would go and see either the GP or EPU next week to have it put on your records, even if they're unable to do anything else.

[ronniemipperton]

Thanks @PencereTencere, condolences and advice much appreciated.

[CookieBlue]

I’ve just been through the same thing unfortunately .

My bleeding started on Sunday, was very very heavy Mon-Wed and is now more like a light period.

I didn’t go into work this week as was a bit of an emotional wreck.. but think it would have been manageable.

I would advise seeing the EPU at some point just so it can all be recorded. I know different areas work in different ways but where I am, I only had to ring my GP surgery and they did the referral for me. I then had a phone call from the EPU to book me in for an appointment a couple of days later.

Be kind to yourself one of the worst things I have ever been through so you have my full sympathy.

[ronniemipperton]

Sorry to hear you’re going through the same @CookieBlue. Thanks for the advice. That’s good to know you just had to call the surgery for a referral, hopefully mine will do the same. It’s quite hard work getting a GP appointment here, last time I ended up going to A&E to get to the EPU which was a bit drastic.

[ronniemipperton]

Just to update (I know I always end up reading every thread when going through this): I did do my work thing (day 2 of proper bleeding) - it was OK but not sure I’d recommend it - it did work well as a distraction but the train journey home was a bit rough, I just wanted a proper bathroom near my bed! Sunday (day 3) I spent most of the day in bed as the cramps got pretty bad (and I felt too depressed to get out of bed). Today (day 4) I tried to get a GP appointment first thing, didn’t manage to initially so went to work, but they’ve now called and asked me to come in so I’m on my way. The bleeding has eased off for now so I’m hoping it might possibly be finished, but I know from other posts/threads it might start again. Hoping I can get a referral to the EPU for a scan to confirm later this week.

It has been a bit emotionally tough, last time I took quite a bit of time off work, this time I haven’t and have had a couple of awkward bursting-into-tears moments. I have a holiday booked next week anyway so trying to tough it out till then, but I’d recommend taking time off if you can.

[lilpeach]

It certainly is a time you need to put yourself first before anything, even work. I'm about to get into bed for the rest of the week - Just going through this myself at the moment, but grateful for this forum for the support and helpful information. And just to feel less alone. I'm so sorry for this loss and for anyone else enduring this. If only being a woman was just a little easier.

Sending love & strength to everyone in this shitty boat x

[lilpeach]

I meant to say, I'm so sorry for your loss. Brains not working entirely, apologies xx

[ronniemipperton]

Thanks @lilpeach and I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this too. Look after yourself x