Missed miscarriage. What next?

[Dbrook]

Hi all,

I started spotting brown discharge over the weekend so went to the EPU for a scan today. I should be 9-10 weeks along but the scan showed an embryo measuring about 6 weeks along. We’re devastated but not hugely surprised as I’ve barely had any pregnancy symptoms.

Anyway, the doctor couldn’t officially confirm the miscarriage as they want to scan me again in 10 days to make sure the embryo has stopped developing (though we both know it has - i’m sure of my dates) so we didn’t get to speak about the miscarriage process and what I need to do.

At the moment I still have a little spotting but not much - only a little bit when I wipe. Does the spotting mean the miscarriage has started and will continue to progress? How long will it take roughly?

Also - what am I meant to do about work? Did you all work through this? I am definitely taking tomorrow off as I’m too emotional to think about anything else, but if the miscarriage ends up taking weeks i’m not sure I want to sit in the office bleeding and in pain.

[Apple103]

I'm sorry you are going through this. I was 9 weeks when it was confirmed that the baby stopped growing and the next day my doctor did a D&C. I was in a bit of pain on that day but have recovered with no bleeding or other issues. My doctor advised me not to go through it naturally as I might need one the d&c in any case if not all is passed. I also thought it would be too traumatic for me to bleed it out for a week or two.

[Dramaqueen14]

Hi I’m so sorry you are going through this. It’s really tough. I had a mc in September. I thought I was just under 12 weeks but baby was 8+ 5. I started with spotting on the Sunday evening and miscarried in the early hours of the Friday morning. My EPu said that the spotting was the start of my body preparing for the mc.

In terms of work I was far too emotional to think of anything and got signed off for 2 weeks which then became nearly 4 because I wasn’t coping mentally and my iron levels were low afterwards.

Everyone is different though and that’s just my experience of it.

Sending love to you, it’s a really shit thing to go through x

[EffYouSeeKaye]

I had a D&C the first time (10 weeks) and a few days off work. The second time (7/8 weeks) I waited a few days and had a heavier than normal period.

Both were fine in their own way, they were just what suited me and felt to be the right course of action at the time.

I’m sorry for your loss and sadness.

[Dbrook]

Thanks everyone. I’m seeing my gp tomorrow so hopefully he can go through some options with me and sign me off for the rest of the week (though I spoke to work and they were very understanding). The spotting has gotten heavier so I’m hopeful that means it’s progressing and the sooner it will all be over with. It feels strange to be hoping to see blood when I go to the bathroom now, when that was my biggest fear over the past 5 weeks since I found out I was pregnant.

I just want this to all be over with so I can start to try and move on. I’m angry at my body for holding on to it for this long when it could all be over with now and I could be thinking about trying again. I’m 36 and it took us ages to conceive and I’m terrified this was our only chance.

Sending love to anyone else out there going through this.

[MrsC19]

Sorry to hear you are going through this ☹️ I had brown blood for 2 and a half weeks (on my honeymoon 😢) before things changed on Sunday night. The blood changed to bright red and I had extremely painful cramps for two hours. I have my first hospital appointment tomorrow to talk through options. I know I still haven’t experienced the worst of it 😔 so praying it’s all over soon

[Apple103]

Hi op. Hopefully it is over soon for you. X

Just had my consult with the gynae today after the d&c. It was confirmed that it was trisomy 18 and the baby was Male . Im also 36 and worried about my chances. But my doc has now put us on a 4 month programme and if we dont fall pregnant by then , then he will discuss further tests etc.