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Miscarriage feels like it's never ending

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Sara2904 Sun 30-Dec-18 15:24:13

I am currently having a miscarriage. Noticed bleeding when I went to the toilet. Went up to A&E on the Friday ( 14/12) spent 7 hours there which they said my blood tests showed I was still pregnant and my blood levels were good. They asked if they could swob me to check for infection, as I sat on the bed I could feel the blood everywhere. The doctor didn't seem concerned until he swobbed and he could obviously see the clots that I was holding. He then said he'd clean what he could, which was the most horrific procedure ice had so far. He scrapped everything he could from me using what he said were forceps. He said someone would call to book me in for a scan as my 12 week scan was booked in for 04/01. The doctor rang me an hour after I got in and said to go up on the Monday morning. At the scan they confirmed there was no heartbeat and where I should of been 10 weeks the baby was measuring 8. The doctor said as I had experienced blood loss and clotting all weekend It seemed I would miscarry naturally. That was on the 17th. I had a follow up appointment on the 27th where they confirmed the baby and sac were still there. They gave me medication and sent me home. I had some cramps and bleeding but everything stopped yesterday. I now have to wait until tomorrow to ring the hospital back and see what I can do next. I feel this is never ending. I feel no one can understand how I'm feeling. People are asking how I am and it's easier to say I'm fine rather than explain how I'm actually feeling. I apologise for the long post, I just felt I needed to write this down in hope of dealing with it some how.

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Littlegoth Sun 30-Dec-18 15:26:53

Didn’t want to read and run - here with a hand hold xx

daphine2004 Sun 30-Dec-18 15:27:14

I’m so sorry for your loss. This must be an awful time for you and your family.

I’m afraid I am not sure that the process is or how long this can take, but hope someone comes along who might be able to.

moomin11 Sun 30-Dec-18 23:26:22

So sorry you are going through this. Would you consider surgical management at all? If so they may be able to book that in quickly for you. Currently going through my 4th loss, I'm booked in for the operation tomorrow although I think I may have passed everything over the weekend. I've had to wait for weeks for confirmation so understand how hard it is - it's torture. I hope you have a way forward soon flowers

Sara2904 Sun 30-Dec-18 23:59:43

Thank you for your replies. At 1st i couldn't of thought of anything worse than surgical management after what happened in a&e. But now I think it's my only option so I'm able to move on from this. I can't go another week of worrying each day when it will happen. I havnt been out just incase it happens when I'm shopping. I'm going to ring the hospital tomorrow and see of they can book me in. I really appreciate your replies xx

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moomin11 Mon 31-Dec-18 13:06:19

That's understandable given the experience you had, I hope they can do something for you. I've just come back from the hospital and a scan confirmed I had a complete miscarriage at home so didn't need the procedure after all. It was surreal though being prepped for it and speaking to the anaesthetist. It's such a hard thing to go through xx

oscarlen Mon 31-Dec-18 14:14:03

Really sorry you’re going through this. I had a miscarriage earlier this year, and after it didn’t pass naturally I had the operation to remove it. My experience was that the operation was very straight forward, very little pain afterwards. I bled for 1 week after and then had spotting for another month. Physically I recovered in a couple of days.

oscarlen Mon 31-Dec-18 14:16:08

At the time I pretended to everyone other than my husband I was fine. I wish I’d been a bit more honest now as it meant I got very little support, other than from my husband.

Sara2904 Mon 31-Dec-18 14:50:25

I've called the hospital and the doctor has said to wait until Friday to see if I do it myself and then they'll scan me Monday if nothing has happened. So that means another week in limbo. I've had no bleeding since Saturday so it's unlikely I'll do this myself.
@moomin11 I'm so sorry. I've never posted on anything like this before but it does help to know your not alone. None of my family or friends have had a miscarriage so it's all new to us xx

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moomin11 Mon 31-Dec-18 18:17:52

@oscarlen it is just one of those things that isn't really talked about isn't it, I think that's why forums like this can be a help for people going through it.

@Sara2904 so sorry this is continuing to drag on for you. I wonder if they're wanting to give it more time because you've had the medication and that's their protocol but it doesn't make it any better when you're the one going through it xx

Amyed92 Sat 05-Jan-19 11:57:39

I'm also going through this, I was told over 3 weeks ago I had a blighted ovum, and I went in for my scan on Monday and was told it hadn't all passed, was given meds to help this and bleeding has now pretty much stopped. Being scanned again Monday to see if anything had progressed, I know it hasn't.

Sara2904 Sun 06-Jan-19 03:06:53

Hi Amyed92. I'm sorry your going through this. I came back up Friday (4th and original 12 week scan date sad, ) and they confirmed everything was still intact which I knew it was. They were going to give me medication again but I asked to be put on the surgery list in the mean time as this is dragging on and I have to get some closure. They told me I could call for a bed the next day but would have to fast from 6pm. Called this morning and had a bed so arrived by 10am and finally had the surgery @ 7.30pm. If you don't think the medication Will work again ask about surgery. I was petrified of it but they knocked me out and I'm in hardly no pain xx

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ale2992 Sun 06-Jan-19 12:17:48

I can't really be off work at the minute as I start in a new class with a class full of new children to the special school I work in, work would obviously have to be fine about it but I don't want to not be in.
The midwife did say what was left was just below the amount they'd usual be concerned about remaining and that they would give the medication anyway as I needed closure.
I just want it over so we can try again.
I'm sorry your going through this too.

ale2992 Sun 06-Jan-19 12:18:28

She also said it may just come away during my next period.

Sara2904 Sun 06-Jan-19 13:47:56

My issue was work aswell as I had a week off before we broke up for Xmas which was a major issue as we were so busy but as they said I could miscarry naturally I didn't want it to happen in work. But when they said on Friday is ha be the medication again then surgery after if it didn't work I couldn't risk having more time off as I'm back in tomorrow. I'm honestly so glad we pushed for the surgery. I feel so much better in myself already. Didn't realise how much it was affecting me. I'm only in slight discomfort but medication is helping. Do what's best for you. I had waited 3 weeks and nothing happened. I couldn't go on for much longer just being in limbo

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Flyfisherlady Sun 06-Jan-19 23:53:56

I hope all went well for you. There are no words but you have my support

ale2992 Mon 07-Jan-19 18:59:52

Just got back from hospital, they didn't want to give me a second dose of meds as they probably wouldn't work again. So have been scheduled for a procedure Wednesday morning under local anaesthetic, is this what you had? Gave me the option to have it, and I quote, "vacuumed out" whilst under general but was told there was more risks with that?

Sara2904 Mon 07-Jan-19 19:52:33

They didn't give me an option. I had general anesthestic. They did name a few risks but any surgery holds risks. To be honest I just needed it over with after being back and forth for over 3 weeks. They didn't use them words with me but I assumed that's what they'd do. I hope you be okay. It's a horrible situation

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ale2992 Mon 07-Jan-19 23:41:59

Yes I feel the same just want this over with

ale2992 Wed 09-Jan-19 12:20:25

Just returned home from my
MVA procedure and I am feeling much better and positive. It's strange prior to the procedure I felt as though nothing could be positive again but I feel so different it's actually strange.

Sara2904 Wed 09-Jan-19 13:03:58

It's an odd feeling isit! I felt great on Sunday but I'm starting to feel unwell now. Got a doctors appointment tonight. I'm not sure if I need vitamins or something or I'm just coming down with the flu and it's just a coincidence it's happened after the procedure. I'm glad you feel more positive though, that's half the battle

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Melissayoung85 Wed 09-Jan-19 13:32:33

Hi I got told on the 31st December my baby had no heartbeat bleeding had started I was 10 weeks I lost my baby the next day on the 1st of January just over a week later the bleeding has calmed down turned a brown colour today but my stomach is still sore is this normal? My first miscarriage so all new to me x

ale2992 Wed 09-Jan-19 15:38:23

I still felt quite uncomfortable in my stomach after when I thought I had passed everything and my bleeding had seemed to have settled but it turned out I hadn't and needed the MVA so that may be why for me. I also had a blighted ovum which technically means there wasn't a baby as such for me.
Sorry you're going through this xx

Flyfisherlady Wed 09-Jan-19 16:16:36

I had a brown bleed on the 17th. Then heavy on the 22nd, 23rd. Was getting lighter then on Sunday had a big cramp and more blood. Had scans on 17th, 24th, 3rd and due another next week. Apparently this long flow of things is all normal, would like it all to stop.

Melissayoung85 Wed 09-Jan-19 16:37:34

Wen I rang the midwife on the 2nd she said by the sounds of what I’d described I had passed everything just wondering how long the soreness lasts in stomach if it was still normal to feel it a week after sorry to hear about your losses x

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