Hi Jacquejacque,
I’m so sorry. There aren’t words. Sending hugs and tissues
Unfortunately I’m in the same boat (was on the June 2019 bus). Scan of questionable viability 2.5 weeks ago (dates behind, no heartbeat but hope as pcos meant dates could be out). Then symptoms dropped over the weekend, scan on Monday (the first I could get post red bleed on Sunday) confirmed loss. I’m ten+ weeks. It fucking sucks and I’m gutted and heartbroken.
I was lucky in that I began to miss naturally and they let me home, and I’ve spent the last two days in bed or on the sofa with a duvet, hot chocolate; nurofen and watching silly movies. Physically I think I’m coming to the end of it now (4 days) in that bleeding has lessened and is now brown, though the cramps are strangely worse than before. I’ve been signed off for two weeks from work - which I think I’ll use as I work in a health care field and am not much use to people if I keep crying randomly (everything sets me off at the moment).
I’m sorry. I know this probably doesn’t help. Despite me knowing so many have gone through this, and it not being my first miss, we’d tried so hard to get pregnant I hadn’t really thought about pregnancy being so difficult or loss. I feel so naieve but I’d so hoped for this little one that I had dreams in my head. And right now, my gut response is just “this is all so unfair”. I’m sad and angry. And in some very guilt ridden way, relieved, as I was so so scared and worried over the weekend but no-one would listen (pink spotting) that at least now we know...But this feeling is new and I’m guessing is probably a coping strategy :(
It’s so hard to have a loss at any stage, but with Christmas (and the heralded 12 weeks so close), it really sucks.
Anyway, I in no way meant to make this post about me. Just wanted to share that I’m here too. I wouldn’t wish this experience on my worst enemy and I’m so so sorry that you have to go through it. I’m here if you want to talk xxx