Recurrent miscarriage appointment - feeling deflated

[dededede]

I have just had a hospital appointment - 6 weeks after the bloods I gave to investigate why I have had 3 early miscarriages since having my toddler (and one before). I am pleased that the blood test came back clear. But the doctor at the hospital then just went on to say that I am perfectly healthy and so there is no need to investigate further. He spoke about how statistically miscarriage happens in one in six pregnancies (I actually thought it was one in four), but didn't relate this to the fact that we have now had 4 in 5 pregnancies end in miscarriage. He spent longer trying to log into his computer than the whole appointment took and tbh I just don't know what to do now. We have put off trying for another since the last miscarriage in December and the doctor is basically just saying to start trying again because there is nothing wrong with me other than being unlucky. I hope he's right but I just don't think I can handle another miscarriage. I honestly have been fine each time but the third time (since having my child) shook me more than i expected it to. I'm not actually sure where this post is going. Just think I needed to get it off my chest because I've had a weird foggy feeling since the appointment and I just can't think straight. Thanks for listening.

[bobbyoo11]

Sending hugs.. I’m new on here. I hope things get sorted for you and I’m sending you a lot of positivity and hope. Never give up, even though it’s painful, through the storms comes a rainbow . Xxx

[dededede]

Aww thank you so much bobbyoo!

It's weird that seeing that little message already makes me feel better. I have been hiding all of this from my family - my husband wants me to talk about it with them, he thinks it will make me feel better but for some reason I find it easier to talk to strangers about it (even though I am very close to my family). Anyway, thank you for your kind words. I already feel so much lighter.

[bobbyoo11]

No worries at all! You have to do what’s best for you, and if you find talking to other mums or whoever is easier, do it. Everyone grieves differently. I have a 4 year old daughter, pregnancy and birth with her was a breeze. Unfortunately I had a MMC found out on Wednesday at a scan, it decided to stop growing at 8 weeks, no foetal pole etc. I have found it very hard and so has my husband, I’m thankful we have a good network of friends and family around us, even if they do get teary talking to us about it, it helps. I’m still pregnant and waiting to see if it will happen naturally or if I need a bit of help. It won’t stop me from trying again once I’m sorted, not straight away but in time. Life has a funny way of dealing us some dodgy cards, but never give up! It comes together when your body is ready and stay positive

[dededede]

Oh I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. It's good that you have good support around you. I do believe that everything has a funny way of working out in the end, even if it is hard to see at the time. So I'm sure that will be the same in your case, and mine. I hope everything works out as painlessly (physically and mentally) as possible for you. And I wish you the best of luck now and in the future. Feels good to talk 😊 thanks x

[bobbyoo11]

Thank you, yes you too!

[Iggi999]

I walked out of my local RMC clinic having heard the same, went home and phoned a private clinic straight away (which did tests for different things).it was strangely devastating to be told nothing was wrong. Not saying you should do the same but it is an option.

[ilovebutterflies]

Do you know if they tested your thyroid?

A friend of mine became pregnant twice through IVF and sadly miscarried both.

It was only after this her thyroid was checked for a separate reason. and it turned out to be under active - this can cause miscarriages. She could not believe she had got so far in investigating her infertility without this being checked.

Of course she will never know if the thyroid condition caused the miscarriages but she still wonders.

This may be of no help whatsoever but just thought I’d post it.

Your doctor seems like a dismissive twat.