In limbo, and confused with measurements...

[Confused7412]

Hi all,

I’ve been lurking on these threads and think I’ve read almost everything online about MMC. This is my first post as I am really confused...

Last missed period was 17/3/18 - but VERY irregular cycles and ovulation all over the place as came of pill in Dec and was still settling down. At a long shot, I think conception was 3/4/18...

Had first positive pregnancy test on 25/4/18 with a fancy one saying I was 3+ weeks.

On the 5/5/18 had private early scan, which dated me backwards to 5+6, CRL 4.1mm with heartbeat and sac ok etc.

Fast forward to 24/5/18 and went to EPU (pain in left ovary) - had a sonographer & student do another scan which measured 4.5mm CRL, gestational sac mean 23.3mm, gestational sac volume 4.3ml. They said embryo was present but they couldn’t see a heartbeat or see my left ovary.

I have been told to go back on 31/5 and was given a course of meds for infection. Since taking the meds I’ve not had the ovary pain.

The cause for my confusion, is that they wouldn’t say I had had a silent/MMC miscarriage; they said they had just seen somethings that concerned them and said “nothing stranger than pregnancy so could change next week”.

I have googled all the measurements and whatever way I look at it my stats seem to be behind where I should be at? Particulary as between the private and NHS scans (almost 3 weeks) the CRL was only measured 0.4 mm different.

Here’s what I’m finding weird:
I still feel positive that everything will be ok (despite everything!) - largely because I have a gut instinct feeling that this is all down to my dates being completely all over the place/ovary issues etc and that baby is ok.

Also because if my googling serves me correct (I know I shouldn’t but couldn’t help it) if the MMC has happened I should have started the loss of the baby by now?

I wanted some advice/to hear your thoughts please? (If anything seems naive/I’m kidding myself I need to hear the truth so don’t hold back )

[jimijack]

Sorry, how many weeks are you?

[Confused7412]

I have no idea, which is half the problem;

Based on early scan I should be 8+6, LMP 9+6, conception 9+2 - then early scan last week sonographer said 8 weeks ish.

[jimijack]

So around 8/9 weeks and no heart beating seen? I think a heart beating should be seen at around the 6 week Mark.
The only definitive way to tell would be a further scan.
Try to not get hung up on measurements, they don't really tell you anything worth knowing, it's a heart beating and physical symptoms that will give the most important information at this early stage.

[Confused7412]

Thanks so much - strangely that’s what I wanted to hear as it’s the measurements that threw me off

[jimijack]

In terms of experiencing the loss, I got to 13 weeks with one of my miscarriages before anything started to happen, I knew about the miscarriage at 7 weeks,
I think this may be why some people go for surgical or medical management. The wait was horrendous but was the right thing for me to do at that time.

[Confused7412]

Thank you so much, I really appreciate you sharing your experience. Feeling a little less optimistic & a little more realistic now... but we will see what Thursday brings x

[LoveOfAnAngel]

Hi confused, I'm sorry that you're facing this possibility and the wait must be awful.

Keeping everything crossed for you for positive news on Thursday x

[SophieE1987]

I would hope for the best, but prepare for the worst - we sadly lost our baby last week - I should have been 12 weeks, but baby measured 8+4 and was 20.1mm - we had seen a heartbeat at 5+4 (3mm) and 6+3 (6.3mm) and had no bleeding until I was 11 + 6 weeks, hoping you get some positive news on Thursday xxx

[Yoshei]

When I had my second miscarriage, the doctor said that it's possible for an embryo to not grow as expected due to low progesterone. She had seen cases where the baby did come through (as implantation progressed). Mine didn't however, so like @SophieE1987 said: hope for the best, prepare for the worst. I hope you'll receive good news on Thursday.

[Bamfo9444]

My daughter is experiencing the same thing as yourself lmp implied 10 week but measured only 6 week and no Hb detected . Going for another scan on 7/5 hoping and praying she had dates wrong . Periods never consistent but test took 19/4 was positive. Done test today and again strong positive results don’t want to get hopes up as happened to me 16 years ago but just the not knowing is really hard as I really don’t want to get her hopes up it’s heartbreaking watching her go through this xx

[LoveOfAnAngel]

Hi confused, how did you get on with your scan?

Hope you're okay (flowers)

[LoveOfAnAngel]

{flowers}

[LoveOfAnAngel]

[Confused7412]

Hi all, thanks so much for the messages. Sorry for the delayed reply - it’s all been quite eventful.

Went back for the second scan and the little peanut had grown to 6.5mm, so no where near what it should have been, and still no heartbeat.

I had D&C yesterday - now recovering at home.

I really hope everyone has better news, but for now I’ll be focusing on getting healthy to try again next year (at the moment it’s put me off risking going through this again for a few months at least).

Xxxxx

[Confused7412]

@bamfo9444 I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed for you and your daughter, your story is exactly like mine, so I really hope she gets good news ❤️❤️