Unplanned pregnancy ended in MMC, now desperate to try again?

[CobaltRose]

Hi everyone.

I'm 21 and underwent an ERPC on Wednesday after discovering my first pregnancy had ended in a missed miscarriage. I was supposed to be 12 weeks but scan showed baby had stopped developing at 6/7 weeks

The pregnancy I lost was conceived despite using contraception, so very much unplanned. However, once my fiancé and I had gotten over the shock, we were happy. We were, and still are, devastated to have lost it.

I didn't quite realise how much I wanted a child until I became pregnant, and now I am no longer pregnant I am utterly desperate to conceive again, even though I'm terrified I'll miscarry again.

Of course I need to discuss this with my fiancé, and we wouldn't start trying until I'd recovered from my ERPC (right now I'm still bleeding and in pain). I know I'm only 21 so have plenty of time to have babies, but I'm desperate

I'm just worried that this desperation is just me being emotional and hormonal as a result of my miscarriage. I'm also scared of being judged if I get pregnant again quite soon. I'm ALSO scared of having another miscarriage. I'm just scared in general

Thanks for listening to my ramblings. This has been a very tough week for me and just writing this stuff down is a great help.

[K0013]

Hi, I came off the pill and didn’t expect to get pregnant so quickly, I was so scared of being a mum but when I fell pregnant it all just seemed to fit. When I had the mc I was devastated but I felt like it was a test to show me that I was actually ready and I wanted to be a Mum. I am so sorry for your loss but I cannot believe for a second that anyone would judge you if you were to get pregnant again soon. Take care of yourself, hope you are ok xx

[Sunshineworshipper]

@cobaltrose so sorry for your loss, everything you have said has resonated with me at the moment. All I can say is when the time is right for you then go for it. Don't worry what others think at the end of the day they aren't you nor are they in your relationship. It's you and your partners decision, hugs x