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Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum.

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum.

Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Is it starting?

15 replies

Pips841 · 07/04/2018 03:52

Was told yesterday that unfortunately my little bean had passed away at 7.5 weeks at my 12 weeks scan. Booked in at the end of next week for surgical management. But I'm awake with cramps - is it going to start early itself? I was told to go to A&E if it did... but sitting here panicking as I really didn't want it to happen naturally hence the decision to go down the surgical route...

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LeeHarper5 · 07/04/2018 04:50

So sorry that you are going through this.

I found out at a 9wk scan that my little one had passed away at 5.5wks. I had been spotting for a week prior to the scan. I too had cramping and miscarried 3 days later at home. I went to A&E as advised and they were very sensitive but just confirmed what I already knew. I had a follow up scan 4 days later to check the miscarriage was complete.

I hope you have somebody with you for support. 💐 If you are worried call 111 for some advice.

caffeinefreebutsadaboutit · 07/04/2018 09:21

Really sorry to hear that. I miscarried at the same dates. If you're cramping it sounds like it could be starting. Are you bleeding? I bleed for quite a while and passed everything on my own. It was a bit painful but not terrible. I would do as they have said and go get checked out.

Melamine · 07/04/2018 13:07

I’m in the same boat as you though found out on Wednesday & have just started heavier bleeding last night/today. I think your body kind of catches up with your brain when you find out. I would read that really good thread on here about what to expect & be prepared - I don’t think going to A&E is a necessity either, just if it becomes too unbearable or too much blood. Get on the painkillers now. Good luck x

Pips841 · 07/04/2018 13:20

What about time off work? My procedure isn't until end of this week coming but are you taking time off work?

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Fidgety31 · 07/04/2018 13:41

I was told on Wednesday my baby died a week ago
I shoud Be 9 weeks now
I have been bleeding lightly all week but yesterday it got painful and I passed the baby
But I still haven’t passed much blood so still waiting

I have hospital on Monday to see what’s going on

Regarding work - I’ve had all week off and will not be rushing back
I am absolutely devastated - work can wait.

Pips841 · 07/04/2018 16:05

Agree re work! I'm just going to take it easy and mentally get over this...

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Melamine · 07/04/2018 21:43

Nothing major happening here but bleeding a bit & cramping. I’ve got the next week off work & have another scan next Friday. Crossing everything (except legs) that it’s all over by then as the waiting is sheer awfulness.

Pips841 · 08/04/2018 07:15

Hi guys, sorry - what did you tell work? Any way a sickline can say something different? I'd rather they didn't know the true ins and outs... but I'd inevitable that's ok I suppose...

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Lovewinemorethanhusband · 08/04/2018 07:53

It sounds like it's starting, sorry for your news xx I went through this and told my boss and he was really supportive and made sure I didn't come back to early, I had 4 weeks off in total and needed to go back for normality really, I've been back 3 weeks now and starting to feel better about the whole situation but trying again now ! . My work don't count any pregnancy or miscarriage in sickness records so it won't effect me at all.

Pips841 · 08/04/2018 08:09

Thanks for your reply! I have cramps and sore back each evening but nothing else yet. My surgery is at end of the week so hoping that I can making it to then as I don't want it to happen 'naturally' at home.

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Laney79 · 08/04/2018 08:25

My sick note just says gynae probs-I asked them not to put miscarriage. X

Pips841 · 08/04/2018 08:38

I might ask my gp to redo mine if it comes up as that...

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StillMissV · 08/04/2018 09:16

I had a missed miscarriage too - I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I didn't go naturally in the end, I chose surgical management and went back to work after two days (carried on working in the meantime until my surgery) but that was very much my way of dealing with it (I knew if I was off work any longer I'd spiral in to a vortex and I have a toddler so needed to stay on an even keel emotionally). I did tell work what was happening though. I wasn't going to but I figured if I needed some time out or support it would be better if a select few people knew and I did find it enormously helpful. My (male) boss was hugely concerned for me and was keen for me to take longer off, and supported me a lot when I came back. Telling him really helped as he understood I was going to have highs and lows emotionally. It has also meant that in this pregnancy (I am now 23 weeks) he was able to support me which I needed as this pregnancy has been very hard emotionally.

Sending love, it's a terrible situation.

Pips841 · 08/04/2018 09:38

Thanks! I am the same with my toddler. I want to not miss out on any precious time with them! So I need to keep positive.., just hope I can conceive again and have baby no 2!!

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Melamine · 08/04/2018 11:34

I told work the truth & everyone’s been brilliant. But I know that my job/career etc won’t be affected by the knowledge that I’ll be having a baby soon-ish (because I will. I will). It’s really shit that that’s something to consider.

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