I just need to put this down in words.
I'm so scared. I was so excited to be pregnant after the initial fear had worn off and then my world came tumbling down at my private scan. I should've been almost 9 weeks-but baby measured around 5 and no heartbeat. Usual refer to EPAU and another scan that told me exactly the same and 95% certain it's an MMC.
That was 19/3. So for the past two and a half weeks I've been stuck in this circle of hell, knowing my bean is dead, desperately hoping my body would let go, then feeling so much guilt for feeling that way, only to be let down everytime I go to the loo.
I feel like such a failure. I couldn't keep bean safe, I can't miscarry properly, I can't stop thinking about it, torturong myself, making it harder for My other half. I hate myself.
And then on top of all of that there's the fear. The unadulterated primal fear. I'm medic phobic - it took years to even walk into a GP surgery without full on panic attack. I came up with coping strategies for pregnancy (elective section, numbing cream for bloods, no internals etc) -knowing that as hard as I'd find it is have something wonderful that would make it all worthwhile.
Now I'm stuck in a hellish process, I've had to have internal scans (never even had a smear and I'm 38) and will have to do it again-knowing I have no choice, no control and I feel so vulnerable and violated.
I have to go back tomorrow but I know I haven't bled enough-so my choices are horrible. I live in limbo for god knows how long hoping my despicable body does what it's supposed to, but no idea when. I take the pills but I'm petrified of that process, and having to spend more time at the hospital and what it might do to my future fertility...and I'm scared I'll put myself through it and it won't work properly. And then surgery which is just such an abhorrent thought to me with my phobia (and my fears of what might go wrong) I can't even contemplate it. It's just not an option.
I just want it to be over. I just want to be able to move on.
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MMC - two and a half weeks on and scan tomorrow. Petrified
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Laney79 · 03/04/2018 08:34
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