Hello everyone!
I have been reading the recurrent miscarriages threads for the last few weeks and have found so much great information, comfort and (unexpected) humour here and as I’ve laughed and cried with you I thought I’d introduce myself and see if anyone has any ideas/insights about what I should do next.
I’m 38 (39 in March) and have suffered 4 early miscarriages.
1st - 4 yrs ago @ 6 wks (with my ex)
2nd - Jan 2017@ 6 wks
3rd - August 2017@10 wks. But had a private scan (as local hospital couldn’t see me until 3 days later and I wanted to get as much info as possible, as it was finally dawning on me that this wasn’t just bloody bad luck, and found that it was a missed miscarriage - the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks.
Had the usual 1st round tests - all came back normal (eventually as the hospital lost the 1st set of results).
4th - Dec 2017@8 weeks. Baby was only measuring 5 weeks so went back a week later to confirm it had died, and had a d&c on Jan 2nd 2018. (I had taken aspirin 75mg, folic acid 5mg and vit D 800iu since TTC on this cycle)
The karyotyping results are back and I got a call from my consultant’s secretary yesterday to tell me that the baby was “chromosomally abnormal” and to book us both in for blood tests to test us in order to exclude “balanced chromosome rearrangement.”
Obviously I consulted Dr Google as soon as I was off the phone (and am awaiting the actual letter to come through) - but really I’m non the wiser as it seems to suggest that a healthy baby is still a possibility even if we are found to have these rearrangements: but should I be looking at some sort of IVF now where they can choose a healthy embryo? I had been planning on booking in to the Coventry Clinic when I ovulate in a couple of weeks. Is this now the wrong path?
We have been referred to Kings recurrent miscarriage clinic, Denmark Hill - but our appointment isn’t until mid April. Every time I have conceived it has happened the 1st month we try (I think this may suggest hyper fertility, non-choosy uterus?).
I have just read “It begins with the egg” as I saw on here that many people have found it helpful, and we have embarked on the supplements regimen recommended. Basically I feel how a lot of us feel on this bloody journey: exhausted, broken, sad and hopeless - but now I’m adding confused to the list!
Thanks for reading through such a long message. Any advice would be most gratefully received.
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madharri123 · 31/01/2018 10:35
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