Miscarriage at the moment, so upset

[Blondy26]

I'm about 4.5 weeks pregnant, I started spotting on Wednesday and the bleeding has got heavier ever since and now I have cramps and clots. This will be my 6th miscarriage so I kind of know what to expect, but I'm so upset. I can't eat and can barely sleep.

I had a Drs appointment booked for Monday anyway and my partner thinks we should still go, but I don't see the point as I spoke to a nurse practitioner at the surgery yesterday and she said they won't do any tests unless you're at least 6 weeks. I don't know what to do

[DontBuyANewMumCashmere]

I'm so sorry for all your losses. It's all so cruel.
I'd go, at least talk to them and get things all recorded.
Sorry

[Peach1886]

poor love, it's so hard to keep going through this (I also had six mc). If the doctors can't help (and I've not heard about them not doing tests unless you get to six weeks), then maybe try the EPU at your local hospital? If all the losses are the same or at least a similar no of weeks then that might give some indication as to what the problem might be xxx

[Blondy26]

Thank you for your replies. I've had tests before and a reason wasn't found.

I've not heard anything from my partner today so I'm dealing with this alone right now. I know he's probably hurting too, but I feel so alone

[kikisparks]

So sorry :( I had one at that stage, after 7 months of ttc, and still ttc 6 months later without any further pregnancy yet. Broke my heart even experiencing it once, can’t imagine what you’re going through. Be good to yourself, chocolate, hot drink, blanket, sofa, put something light and rubbish on on tv if you want and let yourself grieve. Try to eat to keep your strength up. If there’s someone really supportive in your life like a close friend or family member, talk to them. Take a few days off work if you need to. Sorry for your loss

[Sabzh29]

Hi Blondy,

I'm going through a miscarriage as well it started last night. I was about 4 weeks and 5 days.
2nd one in a row and my partner has shut down and went to spend the day with his family. I shall be loving him from a distance today. I know he'll open up again when he has processed the disappointment.
It does feel lonely though isn't?
I guess my post is just to tell you and remind myself that we're not alone, that we are beautiful and worthy of love. If at this moment it feels like no one is around then what's left is: self-care, self-care, self-care...
For me it means today, eating even if i'm not hungry even if it's just eating my favourite fruit and toast with Nutella. Drinking water or warm tea. Having a cuddle with my 10 years old, maybe today it will be a silly movie under the covers.
Sleep if I need to. I'll have to wait for my daughter to sleep tonight to cry though, she'll worry too much if i start crying for no reason. But crying I will. Tears are healing and I wish us both healing from these torturous experiences.
Sending you much love

[Blondy26]

I'm sorry that you're going through this too. This is my 6th in a row.

It is really lonely.

I haven't heard anything from my partner since yesterday morning when I told him what was happening. He said he'd pop over last night but didn't and I haven't heard anything today from him.

Send love to you too xxx

[Bollooooooocks]

Please go to your GP and push for referral for further investigations in fertility clinic

I'm really sorry you're going through this , depending your financial situation you could go private to run some tests and understand what's happening

[Sabzh29]

I'm sorry to hear about your partner. Miscarriage is tough on the best of relationship.
It has definitely put a strain on mine.
At the moment, i'm focusing on my health then when I feel stronger enough, it will be time for a good heart to heart.
Sending you strengh. 😘