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Scared about miscarriage after ectopic

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NooNooHead1981 Thu 26-Oct-17 13:33:02

Hi everyone

I had an ectopic and surgery in March and it has taken me a long time to get to where I am now emotionally, and feel slightly accepting of my loss.

I'm now 5w 4d pregnant again and have an early scan at the EPAU booked for a week's time. It was a bit of a surprise to find out I was pregnant again, and I can't help feeling very cautious about being excited about another pregnancy until I reach the 12 week scan. I'm petrified about the scan next week as I have to go on my own as my DH works away three days a week, so I'll be facing the awfulness of it alone.

I'm not sure I can stand another week of waiting - with my DD's dating scan, it was an external one at 6 weeks and so exciting to see her little heart beating away on the screen. I'm not sure I can face seeing nothing there for this one next week, and I really really don't want it to be a bad outcome but am preparing myself for the worst.

I just want another DC so much, I would be utterly heartbroken if I can't have another as I've waited six and half years for this and DH has said no to any more children or trying again if this pregnancy doesn't work out. sad

ThreeLeggedCat Thu 26-Oct-17 15:07:48

I feel for you. I was exactly the same when I got pregnant after my ectopic pregnancy. During my 8 week scan I almost begged the sonographer to tell me if it was going to be okay and of course she couldn’t. To be honest I didn’t really relax until about 29 weeks because I think I had in my head that the baby could survive even if it was born then. And then I was panicking that we were going to have a newborn baby! My son was born at full time term completely healthy. I think once you’ve had a loss like this then is harder to relax I hope it all goes well for you.

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