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persephonejonesthesecond Thu 17-Aug-17 15:34:17

I recently had a miscarriage. I carried on as normal and was back at work within a couple of days. I've been functioning (for want of a better word) and people think I've just coped and put it behind me. I don't think I have. It's all in my head and constantly going round. I'm putting the best face on it and DH seems oblivious. DD is 4 so she doesn't know.

I've had a few other problems since the miscarriage. Not physical but related to it (I don't want to give too much away) I just texted my mum there to ask her opinion on something and she's told me to "ignore and move on" and that she's "not interested"

To me everything right now is really raw even though I'm outwardly coping. To me everything is related to my miscarriage and I'm finding it harder to cope. My mum's text just stung. I have that horrible panicked feeling in my chest and I just don't know what to do.

I just feel rubbish.

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Vicky369 Fri 18-Aug-17 00:03:57

Hello
I'm sorry you are feeling this way and feel unsupported. I had a miscarriage two weeks ago and it's a surreal heartbreaking place. I actually only went back to work this week, whilst I was still functioning with my daughter who is 3 I knew I wasn't emotionally or physically ready. Do you think you would benefit from some time to reflect and process this? I think it could help if you sat with ur hubby and discussed how u feel maybe he is feeling sad to and doesn't know how to express it, it may be somewhat of a relief? I empathize with lack of support from family as I too have family that aren't always there for me and quite narcassistic. I have found support from
These forums and my hubby especially with questions that aren't in a leaflet and a bit embarrassing to ask etc. I in the past have also suffered with anxiety and unfortunately the mc has triggered me and I have been quite irrational at times. I will be talking to a counsellor soon as think this will help. I never realized the amount of feelings and emotions, questions etc that could arise from this painful experience and still trying to plod through too. We are always here if u want a chat though and I hope u get the support you need soon
Xx

mumsmind Fri 18-Aug-17 21:35:10

Hello....

I am so sorry to hear about your loss, I miscarried at 7-8 weeks of my pregnancy and I havent got anybody to comfort... my partner always think I have moved on but infact in reality i breakdown every night and cry,.... because I dont have the same feeling of a life inside me any more....
I am also still bleeding after miscarried on 25/08..... same pain is there in my heart...

I know that it is really hard to cope.. but if you need to have a chat and we can ease each other's pain... please do msg me.... happy to help... we all are going through the same issues...

K0013 Sat 19-Aug-17 10:55:50

I am so sorry that you are going through this and not getting the support you need. Please try to speak with your DH so he knows how you are feeling, mine is the same and I do have to remind him that I'm still grieving even if he seems to have coped better.

Please remember that we are all here for you, my miscarriage is over and I think I'm doing better but I still come on these boards to try and help others where I can. I really hope you are ok xx

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