2nd miscarriage

[lydsim25]

Hey guys

Iv got 2 daughters (ages 5 & 7)

This year already iv had 2 "early miscarriages"
The first one I dealt with ok & told myself it was Mother Nature
Last week I had my second miscarriage ...
All week I was a complete MESS I sobbed my heart out every day & told myself something is wrong with me etc...
my partner wasn't very supportive as it was a shock.... so Iv felt very alone with it
Now my miscarriage is over I still deep down feel very sad and feel like something is just missing in my life but I'm being strong alone & smiling for my family's sake.
Does anyone have success stories after multiple miscarriages?
My doctor says there is nothing wrong with me because I have children already.

Is there anything I can do to prevent miscarriage?

Sorry to all who have also experienced this I feel your pain

[K0013]

Hi lydsim25, I'm afraid I can't answer your question as this was my first miscarriage but I just wanted to say that I am so sorry for your loss and I'm thinking of you xx

[ferntwist]

Thinking of you lydsim. Just to say my consultant has told us that most early miscarriages are down to chromosomal abnormalities with the baby that makes them incompatible with life. This was comforting to me. There's almost certainly nothing you could have done to prevent it. I hope all goes well for you in your next pregnancy. Thank you for posting your experience.

[ferntwist]

I should also say that the abnormalities are usually completely random, nothing to do with the mother or father, just nature.

[Embobolina88]

Hi. I had my first miscarriage at 11 weeks back in October. Then my second in February at 9 weeks- paid for an early scan to be told there was no yolk. I have a healthy happy toddler but desperate for another child. I'm trying to see it as everything happens for a reason- we just lost my father in law to a short battle with brain cancer- it would have been very hard on me being heavily pregnant or with a small child. I'm trying to see it at the universes way of telling me it wasn't the right time. I really want to try again but I can't build myself up to it until next year. My bmi was slightly high when I went to midwife appointment so I've been focusing on trying to lose a little weight and get healthy first. My best friend just announced she's 12 weeks pregnant with her second- last time we were pregnant at the same time. I felt terrible for being upset when she told me. Constant mixed emotions!!!! Sorry for your losses, I feel your heartache. X

[Gemcoc]

Hi lydsim - just to say I've just been through two early miscarriages / chemicals in a row and know how absolutely horrible it is. I'm so anxious and can't stop thinking about it. I have read a lot of positive stories about people conceiving after a number of these but it's hard to feel positive sometimes. X

[user1497292248]

Hi Lydsim25 I feel your pain, I've just had an early chemical mc and in June I had one at 8 weeks. Possibly the worse thing I've ever been through. I feel like there must be something wrong with me. But I guess it just wasn't meant to be. I have managed to be referred (not sure how) so I'll see what they say. I'm not hopeful that they will do much but it's something! Now trying again! 3rd time lucky and all that! Keep your chin up and maybe ask for a referral?

[B1610]

Hi everyone I'm new to mumsnet but wanted to join this thread as I'm in a similar boat! I'm 23 and have suffered 2 miscarriages. I'm usually fit and well and both times have been unplanned so have been on nights out when I didn't know but nothing crazy! Both times I was only 5/6 weeks along. gp won't do testing until it happens a 3rd time. I'm going to see a private Dr to get progesterone levels checked and also to check levels of anti phospholipid antibodies as through research these can be common causes. That alone is nearly £200!other than that I'm now going to carry on taking prenatal vitamins even though it may be a while until we ttc. And I've bought some Maca (veg/herb extract) this can be good for hormone balance and fertility in men and women! And I am debating weather to start low dose aspirin after reading success stories. I too would love to hear similar situations with happy endings! X