Sex

[user1498854762]

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I'm still in early days after medical management of my miscarriage and hubby is keen but I'm not about to start thinking about having sex again - it's so not appealing right now.

Did anyone else feel withdrawn from it altogether and how long did it take you to get back to normal?

[user1498854762]

Sorry I started this thread strangely, new to all this. Point is sorry to anyone going through this.

[laurelstar]

I don't blame you for not feeling like sex yet. I'm also going through medical management. Previously I've been told not to have sex until all bleeding has stopped, because of the risk of infection. You're still healing, I hope your husband understands this.
Hugs

[user1498854762]

I guess it's tough for him, it's almost 2 months since I got pregnant and didn't feel in the mood then came the misc. and I've just not been there :( I guess he'll just have to understand. He's been such a gem but I feel guilty

[TippyTinkleTrousers]

I wanted to have sex the second my baby was born it was the weirdest most unwanted thing at the time.

My baby was a late miscarriage and it can be a hormonal symptom I've read. That instinctive feeling to regain something lost.
A month on and I don't feel that way at all
In fact DH is headed that way and I am most definitely not, so I now feel like you OP.

Which ever way you feel after a miscarriage you're body and emotions need to repair and if your DH isn't supportive, understanding and on board with that, then he's being a nob.

[TippyTinkleTrousers]

*not the second he was born obviously.

[ForeverHopeful21]

You definitely shouldn't feel guilty OP. MC can be traumatising and totally understandable if you don't feel like sex.

Everyone is different but all I wanted after my MC was a hug and nothing more. I had a lot of medical complications after my MC which probably added to things, but it was 6 weeks until I had any desire at all. Luckily my husband cared more about my wellbeing and that I was ok, rather than him getting any.

[user1498854762]

Yes still feeling the regular need for a hug daily. I wonder how long it will last

[LJFM2B]

Hi,

I had my 3rd internal scan yesterday which confirmed my MC has been completed through medical management ... its such a horrible thing to deal with. The baby was very much wanted by both me and my DH so we have both had to come to terms with the fact we are no longer expecting but you are the one who physically is going through this ... you get attached to your baby the minute you find our your pregnant and even subconsciously before. its both mentally and physically hard on you alot more than your partner/husband no matter how lovely they are its you that has to be 100% better before turning the page.

My DH mentioned sex this morning and i just said "i think its best if you wait for me to make the first move and right now i have no idea if it will be in the next week or the next month, I think its best to avoid me snapping at you and calling you insensitive etc"

... you WILL want to have sex again at some point but theres no pressure on when and unfortunately no matter how helpful or sensitive the OHs can be they will never fully understand what you have gone through. Even the internal scan felt intrusive and i dont want to think about anything else down in that area at the moment.

im sorry you have all had to go through it too ...

[user1498854762]

You're right, no one knows, when the feelings will come back. At some points during the day I'm fully charged ready to go for it but by the time he's home and we're together the feeling is gone.

We tried to have sex at some point last week and I just started to cry. It was a turn off as you can imagine.

I did medical management but it didn't clear out everything so now I'm going on Wednesday for the minor op, doctor is suspecting molar pregnancy

[LJFM2B]

Im no doctor and obviously can not advise medically but personally when the op was on the cards for me i told my husband to not even talk to me about it until a little while after the op and again i would just tell him to wait for you to make the move. Possibly to much detail here but i got the all clear on sunday and still feel almost nervous to 'do it' again ... but i was thinking this weekend we have a night in so if im feeling 'up to it' i might pull out some nice undies and surprise him ... i know his dealt with this in his own way and i have pushed him out at times so it mat make him feel wanted again and i think he will appreciate the effort and the fact its a big deal to me!

[user1498854762]

It's Friday LJFM2B, weekend is here. All prepped and ready to go?

My surgery went fine, told to use condoms if having sex at least for the next month. Let's see eh! Counterintuitive if you ask me, trying to have a baby and all that. Funny how these doctors think

[LJFM2B]

Well I think I am but we will see if I chicken out.

doctors really do see us as "just another patient" ... I think we've got to try not to think about that too much but after September we can both try again ... getting pregnant sounds so simple!! Xxx

[Albatross2]

I had a
Medical management of miscarriage on the 15/08, all bleeding stopped early on the 19/08 and had sex the same night. I had worried about wanting to do it again, but actually wanted to and felt better for it. Felt nice to be close to my partner again. Everyone is different and there is no right or wrong answer, what ever feels right for you