Twin pregnancy loss confusion / very bad diarrhea

[flatdweller22]

Hi, this is my first experience of miscarriage, but my second pregnancy. Long post!

I started bleeding a little on Friday afternoon and was booked into the early pregnancy unit for a scan by 11am on Saturday (the bleeding getting steadily worse but still not that heavy). I was around 8.5 weeks and told it appeared to be a failed twin pregnancy. There was one very small (basically not formed I dont think) sack and one that looked like it stopped growing about 5 or 6 weeks. I was told that it is failed but that I should go back a week on Monday for another scan as they legally have to double check in case the dates were wrong.

My bleeding got steadily heavier / clottier over Saturday and then basically stopped in that evening after I passed something that felt like it might have been a small sack. And now (Sunday) it's just been really light, red blood when I wipe and no pain. But the whole time I have had (and still have) REALLY bad diarrhea.

I guess Im wondering two things. Simple thing has anyone else had this diarrhea, is it normal? I get IBS but never this bad!

More complex thing... I suppose I'm secretly holding out a hope that because it's been so light I might only be losing the one tiny sack and there is still a chance for the other one... Am I totally kidding myself? I have lost most (not all) of my pregnancy symptoms eg painful boobs. And if I am kidding myself then should I expect to have another miscarriage soon. I'm feeling a bit scared about this.

Sorry so long. My first DS was born 7.2 weeks prem and I'm a pretty anxious person anyway. Thanks anyone!

[Lime19]

I lost twins in may. I'm so sorry for what's happening to you. I started bleeding, thought it was all over. This was at 7 weeks... had a scan and it's twins! Heart beat seen. Anyhow, bleeding got worse and worse and redder and redder. Clots the size of golf balls came out.

At 9 weeks I was told one had died. The other by that point fell off growth chart. But I was told 90percent chance all would be ok with twin 1.

Sadly it wasn't meant to be. Twin 1 died a week later.

I too had lost all symptoms.

BUT the Drs were still hopeful one would be ok. Anything is possible. I'm my case it just wasn't meant to be.

I did not have a funny tummy but to be fair, I can see how one might. My diet changed as I was anxious. I definitely felt nervous (which can give me a dodgy tummy) plus I had cramps at times (another possible cause)

[flatdweller22]

Thanks Lime19, I really appreciate your sharing your experience and I'm very sorry for your losses. I guess the fact is I just don't know and maybe the doctors don't really either. There was no heart beat either (too small) so I think I may just need to accept what's happening. Or be patient until my next scan. And hope I don't have a dodgy tummy until then! Thanks again. x

[YouFightLikeADairyFarmer]

I lost twins in December at about 10 weeks (although they'd died somewhere between 7 and 8 weeks). I had medical management and the day after I miscarried I had the worst tummy ever, with terrible cramps (digestive/ibs type rather than gynae-related) spent most of that day in the bathroom, it was not pleasant.

If I were you, I'd be preparing myself for the worst, although I'm a bit biased/pessimistic after my own experience. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. It's shit.

[flatdweller22]

Thanks You fight, it is shit and sorry you've been through it too. Thanks for telling me what happened with you and good to know that I'm not the only one with the upset tummy. It seems trivial in comparison but I can't tell what symptoms are what now, which doesn't help.

[AmyB1986]

Hi, like you I had bleeding at 8 weeks. I went for an early scan and was told that it was a twin pregnancy and one twin had not developed and the sac was only visible at that point. It was misshapen and smaller measuring around 5 weeks.
I had lots of bleeding and passed a clot which was the sac at which point the bleeding slowed down and eventually stopped a week after.
At 9.5 weeks I went for a scan again and twin 2 was still there, healthy heart beat and growing as she should.
She is now 9 and thriving.
Not all is lost and I hope this is the case for you too.

[flatdweller22]

Oh AmyB, thank you for sharing that with me. Its good to have something to hope for. Altough it sounds like twin 2 was always healthy and just twin 1 too small? Is that right? With me Twin 1 was basically not there and twin 2 underdeveloped for dates. Just trying to figure out my chances. Its complete agony waiting til Monday. I feel like I can't lave the house cos I think I will just break if I have to do small talk. Sorry bit of waffle there. Thanks again so much - it's so good to hear a positive story. x

[AmyB1986]

@flatdweller22 they couldn't see twin 2 on the scan very well and there seemed to be no heartbeat at the time. Measured small for my dates also.
After the bleeding had stopped and they could see much better it seems she caught up. I don't know how it was some sort of miracle. I totally expected her to be gone.
There was some bruising around her sac and a subcronic heamotoma also.
I understand exactly how you feel, it's agonising waiting.
The previous year I'd also lost an identical twin pregnancy quite late on too so it just seemed like everything was against us.
Things have a strange way of fixing themselves.
Be kind to yourself in the meantime, I have everything crossed for you xx

[Lime19]

The way my dr explained it to me was that in a lot of cases the "miscarriage hormones" cause the alive twin to peel away. Once miscarriage is complete the remaining twin often catches up... seems smaller on scans for a while but catches up later.

[flatdweller22]

Thanks so much Amy B that is a really kind post. I am trying to be kind to myself too :) It's also just really good to hear your story because I was offered 'chemical management' this week but without another scan... I wasnt going to go for it anyway but it's good to be reminded tat I'm not being completely crazy to think there could be a tiny chance. Thanks again.

[flatdweller22]

Thank you Lime19, no one has explained anything g like tat to me! Maybe my case is a bit more cut n dried from what they can see on the scan? But again glad I haven't gone for the chemical management option. Just got to wait. Thanks again. I really appreciate it loads. x

[flatdweller22]

Just realised I meant 'medical management' not chemical. My brain isn't working right now.

[Floralnomad]

I bled very heavily and lost a twin with my first pregnancy at 12 weeks , tmi but it was literally like my entire innards fell out and we were very surprised that the other sac managed to hang on in there , but he did and is 24 now .

[flatdweller22]

Wow Floral that's amazing. Thanks so much for sharing :) x