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I think I'm having a miscarriage

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LittleFryingPan Thu 22-Jun-17 15:01:01

Didn't even know I could be pregnant.

What the actual fuck do I do now?!

jimijack Thu 22-Jun-17 15:03:54

Have you tested?

LittleFryingPan Thu 22-Jun-17 19:01:13

Just tested now (only just finished work)

It's a positive. Now what?

roselondoner Thu 22-Jun-17 19:06:01

Are you bleeding heavily? How many weeks pregnant do you think you could be? I'm sorry this must be really horrible for you. flowers

LittleFryingPan Thu 22-Jun-17 19:10:57

Heavily enough to be changing every hour and a half/2 hours and really really big clots.

I've been really irregular since my periods started in January after finishing breastfeeding so I have absolutely no idea how far I could be.

I think I'm in shock. Have no idea what I'm meant to do

roselondoner Thu 22-Jun-17 19:47:26

Okay, well if it gets heavier than you are now or you feel dizzy I would go get yourself checked out. When I went through similar they said more than one pad per hour is too heavy I think.

I hope you're feeling okay? Make yourself comfortable and drink lots of fluid. I'm so sorry for you must be such a shock xx

LittleFryingPan Thu 22-Jun-17 19:58:10

Thank you roselondoner flowers is it really just a wait for it to pass?

I feel like I should be doing something if you know what I mean?

Really tearful and in pain. This is horrible

MissEDashwood Thu 22-Jun-17 20:05:57

I'm so sorry. Proper protocol would be to either self present at a Gynaecology A&E / Call 111 / self refer to EPAU / get your GP to refer if you can't self refer.

That is pretty heavy bleeding I would be inclined to call 111 and see how they assess things. But I get you don't really want to be separated from DC.

Please just give them a call for advice at least. Then make sure you get in with an EPAU.

Best of wishes x

LittleFryingPan Thu 22-Jun-17 20:46:05

Been told to just stay at home (thank god) for now and to see GP tomorrow.

Think I'm going to have a really hot bath to see if it eases some of the pain.

Thank you for your kind words

roselondoner Thu 22-Jun-17 21:18:50

I know what you mean, it's hard to sort of sit around and it feels like some structure should be followed, but self care is the best way forward, especially now they've told you you're ok to sit tight. Let us know if you need more company ❤️ flowers

tiredandfrustrated Thu 22-Jun-17 21:31:18

I'm so sorry. I've had one myself. When the bleeding slows down, try testing again. It should show negative pretty quickly.

Just take care of yourself. It will be painful and horrible and you'll feel terrible so do whatever you need to be a little more comfortable.

LittleFryingPan Thu 22-Jun-17 21:45:31

I honestly can't say how much you being so kind means to me. Thank you flowers

I've had my bath and it did fuck all do DH has been giving me a back rub and is going to hook me up to my tens machine.

For not even knowing I was pregnant, I feel really fucking lost. I'm mourning something I wasn't aware of. And then I check in on DD and see what could have been with this. We don't even want another, can't afford it at all but it's got me thinking so much.

And it really hurts. Desperate to talk to someone but don't know what to say.

Backhometothenorth Fri 23-Jun-17 09:22:15

Sorry this is happening to you OP flowers
Hope you're doing ok

LittleFryingPan Fri 23-Jun-17 09:36:57

I'm trying.

Went into work like an absolute knob this morning. Left now for the doctors but don't know whether to go back or not after.

On one hand it'll keep me busy. On the other I can barely move without crying because of pain.

LittleFryingPan Fri 23-Jun-17 10:39:59

Please can I have a hand hold?

Can't be seen at the hospital until tomorrow and I'm back at home by myself.

I can't stop crying. She thinks I'm about 8 weeks.

roselondoner Fri 23-Jun-17 11:00:05

Hand holding here as long as you need me. Remember to breathe and to focus on the fact this will all be over soon. I'm here flowers

GlitteryFluff Fri 23-Jun-17 11:22:15

Oh little I'm so sorry
Handholding flowers

LittleFryingPan Fri 23-Jun-17 11:49:23

Poor DH is ringing me every chance he gets.

He has organised for DD to have a sleepover at my parents tonight so we can have some time and won't have her with us in the morning.

Don't even know how he's being so practical

LittleFryingPan Fri 23-Jun-17 11:49:36

Thank you

speakfriendandenter Fri 23-Jun-17 11:54:05

Thinking of you and sending lots of hugs x

roselondoner Fri 23-Jun-17 12:04:11

Your DH sounds lovely and exactly what you need right now, a night just to feel however you need to. How's it all going there? Have you been seen? flowers

roselondoner Fri 23-Jun-17 12:04:51

Oh crap sorry ignore that I misread what you said. You're at home, is there anything you like to do to relax?

Backhometothenorth Fri 23-Jun-17 12:07:53

Thinking of you OP

I was given a doctors note for two weeks off work after miscarriage- take the time to recover a little- this is a terrible shock for you and you need to give yourself lots of TLC flowers

LittleFryingPan Fri 23-Jun-17 14:00:48

Had my bath, dosed up on painkillers and watching David Attenborough. Can't focus at all and desperate to DO something.

Poor mum came round for DDs overnight things and found me sobbing in my trackies on the sofa. Nothing like a hug from your mum though, even when you're one yourself.

Thanks for the hand holds everyone flowers

tiredandfrustrated Fri 23-Jun-17 19:20:41

Hand holding here for you. Big hugs, it is so painful in every way. Here for you.

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