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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Confused about scan!!!!

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user1497292248 · 12/06/2017 19:41

So Thursday night I start bleeding, it got progressively worse Friday so much so I had paramedic out. Anyway I kept being told it wasn't a miscarriage. So today I get sent for early scan expecting them to just tell me everything was gone.... but seemingly it's not however she couldn't see a heartbeat (no great surprise) so I then get sent to doc with the results and she said at this stage they can't do anything as they have some cut off date and im just short of that! So I have to have a re scan in a week then they will help things along I guess! But how confusing and I don't understand any of it! They kept asking if my dates are correct but god my last period was ages ago so I think so but now I'm questioning myself 😩 HELP!

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Winterc00kie · 12/06/2017 19:44

Have they asked for bloods every other day to monitor hcg? They ate just checking absolutely everything from an MC to Ectopic. I went through it all last year. Its so stressful I know. Xx

JCleRoux · 12/06/2017 19:47

Have they done your blood test to check your hcg levels? Also, how far along are you? If you're not 6 weeks yet they won't be able to see a heart beat, it's too soon.

Hope you get the answers you need. An MC is just awful

user1497292248 · 12/06/2017 20:23

No not asked for bloods, I think I should be 8 weeks but the nurse thought 7 however she didn't seem sure! It's just awful, it's bad enough knowing your having miscarriage without them confusing the matter! I'm now just terrified of what's going to happen 😞 It's so painful! Cramps have gone but now they've told me it hasn't all passed I'm waiting for them to return xx

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JCleRoux · 13/06/2017 13:53

How are you today OP?

user1497292248 · 13/06/2017 14:04

Yeah fine, just playing the waiting game. Bleeding on and off with some clots, sorry tmi! Had the odd twinge but no cramping. All very very frustrating and a long week it will be 😞

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ACFW2016 · 13/06/2017 16:25

So sorry to read you're going through this. Last Wednesday we went for my 12 week scan to be told that the baby measured 7 weeks 3 days and had no heartbeat. Although at that size (if my dates were wrong) they would have detected a heartbeat, they said it was protocol for me to be rescanned in a week so clearly our baby had died. Unlike you I had no bleeding at all but I was told I would expect to bleed and miscarry within the week but I haven't so far. If my body didn't realise in five weeks since the baby died I doubt it would do this week.

Either way, I wanted to send you a hug as we both go through this xx

user1497292248 · 13/06/2017 17:27

Sorry for what your going through. It's totally awful, plus now playing the waiting game. Also wondering what to expect! I know a little bit as I've been in a lot of pain which has gone now just waiting for its return! Is this your first pregnancy? I'm totally put off buy it 😞 I know I shouldn't be but it's hard not to be!
Big hugs to you xx

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Winterc00kie · 13/06/2017 17:47

I hate this wait too, bene tcc since my ectopic in october, i lost a tube, tested pos last week 2day after operiod was due and been cramping now...

Ive had 3 Mcs in all, 2 ectopics (1st was treated medically the last one meant a tube removal).

I know exactly what you are going through. xx

user1497292248 · 13/06/2017 18:21

Goodness that sounds awful 😞 Eptopic must be worse in some ways, I was terrified on Friday that mine was eptopic as I was in so much pain! Just so cruel isn't it. Everyone around me seems to be pregnant at the moment which is hard, although Im happy for them it makes it harder!
I will keep my fingers crossed that all is well for you 🙏🏻 Xx

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user1497292248 · 13/06/2017 18:22

Goodness that sounds awful 😞 Eptopic must be worse in some ways, I was terrified on Friday that mine was eptopic as I was in so much pain! Just so cruel isn't it. Everyone around me seems to be pregnant at the moment which is hard, although Im happy for them it makes it harder!
I will keep my fingers crossed that all is well for you 🙏🏻 Xx

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Winterc00kie · 13/06/2017 18:27

I know, I think it shows you pregnancy isn't all scan pics on fb and excitement in the 1st stages. I think the first 12 weeks no matter what are always the hardest to get through. xx

user1497292248 · 13/06/2017 18:53

It really is very very hard and if I decide to try again I don't think I will enjoy pregnancy very much at all 😞 I will just have bad memories of that scan room aswell! Hopefully we will all be more positive with time xx

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GuntyMcGee · 13/06/2017 19:05

So sorry to read about what you're going through, OP and others who are going through the same.

Unfortunately, they will need to rescan you again just in case there's a discrepancy with your dates and you're less far along than you thought, so although it does feel like absolute torture, what they don't want is to progress to medically ending your pregnancy when there could potentially be a viable pregnancy there, but not yet developed enough to see a heartbeat or fetal pole.
They just want to make absolutely sure. However, they could possibly take beta HCG bloods over the next few days to see how your hormone levels are, which would give some idea of whether your pregnancy is progressing or not. Perhaps it's worth asking the early pregnancy unit or your gp to do the bloods?

GuntyMcGee · 13/06/2017 19:07

Also, I totally understand how you're feeling towards a future pregnancy. I miscarried an ivf pregnancy only a week after getting my only ever bfp and I'm terrified of trying again and if I do try again and a miracle does happen, I don't think I'll ever enjoy a pregnancy in the same way that someone who has never had a loss will.

ACFW2016 · 13/06/2017 19:30

Yes it was my first pregnancy after 7 years trying to conceive. The thing is... as awful as this moment is, I have hope. I know it's cliche but I can get pregnant!

It's so difficult to think straight as I wait to be told again on Thursday that the baby has no heartbeat and hasn't grown. I no longer feel pregnant. I am waiting to be told that so at least I'm not in any way in denial or shocked.

As hurt as I am my focus is to say goodbye to our little baba, they will never be forgotten and try again. Yes I'll be scared, even more than I was this time around but our want for a child will push through. It's also brought me and my OH even closer which has been lovely as only he truly understands the pain xx

JCleRoux · 13/06/2017 19:32

I'm so sorry everyone!

@AC you've been through such a terrible ordeal. I am so sorry . Have they at least offered you a surgical option?

@Winter How is your right tube? Is that at least working?

OP hang in there. Ive been there before. Four losses in total and every single time my heart broke. But you will get through this and hope you find the strength to try again if that's what you want to do xx

user1497292248 · 13/06/2017 19:32

Thank you for sharing this info. I understand they why they are re scanning but I guess I know in my heart there's no viable pregnancy, I've been in far to much pain. No bloods have been offered, I think I've got this far I'll just wait it out! It's very difficult knowing when to go back to work aswell. My doc has said to try again asap because I'm 36 therefore time is ticking! All so depressing! Took us nearly a year to even get pregnant 😏.
Sorry to hear your situation. I hope you get your miracle 🙏🏻 They do happen xx

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GuntyMcGee · 13/06/2017 19:38

You go back to work when you feel ready to and not before. You may feel different on different days so just wait it out and see how things go.

Once I knew it was happening, I felt like I needed it over and done with, but once it had fully gone, I had the grief to deal with. Miscarriage is tough because you get the loss without the memories and others who haven't experienced it don't really understand. Although physically it's only a ball of cells, emotionally it's a much longed for and loved person and you feel cheated of the chance to get to know them and have those memories.

Xx

ACFW2016 · 13/06/2017 19:49

No @JCleRoux they haven't offered me anything at the moment, I've just been told to the early pregnancy unit for a re scan Thursday.

I'm 32 myself so I do hear that ticking clock. I'm determined that this won't break me, I can get pregnant - I know that now. For seven years I've thought I would never see as much as a positive pregnancy test. I conceived on Mother's Day which was a huge sign to me that I will be a mum.

I've read threads of conceiving after miscarriage and many seem to conceive fairly soon due to being more fertile etc so, I am hoping for the same and quite honestly, I know I haven't gone through the worst yet but I feel I am ready to try again in a few weeks time once everything has passed.

This will be all worth it, I would like to think that those of us who have suffered this will come out even stronger and more determined xx

user1497292248 · 13/06/2017 20:08

Thanks for all your messages. It's nice to talk to people who understand. Im so sick of people asking me when I'm going to have a baby, I know they don't know what's happening but why keep asking when clearly there's a problem I don't want to talk about?!
I'm trying to hold onto the fact that I can get pregnant but I've gotta overcome another potential loss! I wish they could tell you why you miscarry. I know that we lose them because there's a possibility there was something wrong it still just seems like such a waste. All that Time of trying to go back to square one 😞. I'm pretty scared now of what I'm going to pass, I've heard awful things that would haunt me forever. I bury my head in the sand and wouldn't want to see a Fetal sac 😞. Sorry I sound so negative xx

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ACFW2016 · 13/06/2017 20:36

Awwww I totally and utterly understand what you're going through and how you feel. You will get to that stage in your own time, I'm sure.

I have had the questions about children and it is annoying. I normally just give them a vague answer to shut them up like "it will happen if it's meant to be."

I've heard all kinds of horror stories and awful experiences but, I'm trying not to prejudge what's going to happen as I'm sure it's different for each person.

Sending big hugs x

Winterc00kie · 14/06/2017 12:55

@JcleRoux - they removed my tube so Its everyother moneth i can try now xx

Winterc00kie · 14/06/2017 12:56

Sorry I meant My right one works, they removed my left xx

Beccaboo77 · 20/06/2017 20:21

Hi
First time pregnant and had some pains and went for a early scan . They said they can see a sac but it showing signs of breaking down and they don't see a fetel pole or yolk. From my last period doctor says I am 8 weeks but I thinking I am only about 5 weeks I have to go back for another scan next week ... had anybody experienced this and can advise me ? As i have glimmer of hope but also I'm devastated as they advised high chance of miscarriage
TIA

user1497292248 · 20/06/2017 20:40

Hi!
Mine was also a first pregnancy. Was 8 weeks! I had bleeding with cramps though. Had a scan and the sac was there but no heartbeat. Second scan showed the all clear and that id passed the sac so fully misscarried. It's heartbreaking and sad. All the advice I can give you is try not to get ur hopes up to much, I felt that preparing for the worse makes it easier if bad news. How are you feeling at the moment? Xx

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