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Missed miscarriage

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Rkd14 · 11/06/2017 00:29

I was admitted to hospital in Jan with symptoms of an ectopic pregnancy they done a few test and told me everything seemed okay and discharged me with an appointment for 2 weeks later as it was too early to tell. When I went for this scan they told me that everything was fine and baby was in the right place therefor a normal pregnancy. A few weeks after that I was in a lot of pain and had a gut feeling something was wrong they done another scan and there had been no growth since the last scan and call Missed miscarriage. I went for a medical evacuation which failed and I then went for another one and this failed too so got a D and C in my hospital room, this was now March. I have felt numb since this happened just a feeling of loss. I was wondering if anyone has any tips on how to face what has happened so I can try to move on and get back to how I used to be, I have an amazing daughter who has just turned three and want to get back to being the happy outgoing person I was for her.

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Cocoloon · 11/06/2017 17:43

Hi
I went for a scan yesterday and all measured fine for 10 weeks but they said the baby had no heart beat. I have had no miscarriage symptoms and I feel numb. I too have a 3 year old

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Katieliv27 · 11/06/2017 20:25

Hi, last week we went for a scan at 10+6 where we were told our baby was only measuring at 7 weeks and there was no heartbeat. It came as a total shock as I'd had no bleeding or any pain apart from at the early stages which my doctor put down to implantation. We weren't trying for a baby, I was actually on the pill when we conceived - I'd gone to the doctor with those pains and that's when we found out but once we found out, I wanted that baby more than anything. I miscarried back in January, discovered when the bleeding and pain started as I hadn't been for a scan at that point. I'm heartbroken, angry and lost. I've been in and out of hospital since, the most recent occasion was this morning due to the contractions I was getting. I've come home with strong painkillers after discussing my options with a consultant, I wanted to have a D&C however I just don't have that option as tomorrow I have to travel with my partner back to his hometown where we will be moving shortly as he has his final court date where he should be regaining joint custody of his little girl.
I am praying with everything that I have that the worst of it holds off, I can't imagine anything worse than having to do it all at his parents house - even though I know they would be brilliant. The neck of my womb is still closed and I'm not bleeding very heavily, however the pain when I'm not using strong painkillers is like nothing I could ever describe and I am passing clots.
I genuinely wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy, life is certainly very cruel.

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Cocoloon · 11/06/2017 21:21

I know you feel like you want to be on your own but their support may be very helpful to you.
The feeling is so weird and makes you feel so numb. I find myself just staring into space working out what went wrong. Good news for your partner about child contact - I just helped my brother get joint custody for his child and he got it.

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