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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Would be due date

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user1496803865 · 07/06/2017 03:57

I was pregnant last August/September and then had a miscarriage at almost 8 weeks. it was a shock as this was my and my husbands first baby/ pregnancy. i was devastated even though we had not planned this baby it was still wanted and loved so much. i cried for weeks maybe even moths blaming myself and wondering what i had done wrong or what i could have done better to keep this baby safe. I realized it just happens and there was nothing i could of done or changed which was hard as well as just blaming myself. A few months later it was Christmas and new years and i let go of the pain a little and could think about everything without crying.

but now as my due date is coming up tomorrow i am at a loss again, in horrific pain. Wondering how i'm going to get through these next couple of days. I'm not sure how to manage the sadness, expectations, stigma and also not sure what to do to "celebrate" (commemorate) this would have been life.

Advice, help, ideas and anything else that you think may help would be greatly appreciated as i am at a loss of what to do, feel , think etc about anything.

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NoNeedToArgue · 09/06/2017 14:52

Hi OP

How did you do, yesterday? I was so anxious about my due date and even thought about booking the day off work etc, but in the end I got through it ok. That was a couple of years ago now and although I still think of the baby we lost, in November when I had the miscarriage and in June when the baby was due, it does hurt less and less as time passes. Hugs to you.

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user1496803865 · 19/06/2017 03:55

Thank you for the advice and the due date was really bad i couldnt think about anything else or even really think at all. i went to work though which was a terrible idea wish i had taken the day off work.
im hoping it gets easier ever year and that maybe next year i might have a baby which might make it a little easier to handle.

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User586746 · 20/06/2017 15:29

Hi,
So sorry for your loss x
My son whom I lost at 20 weeks pregnant or thereabouts would have been 2 years old next week. This is the worse time for me I think - when it hits me the hardest - all the what should have beens. I have come to accept that it always will be like this and I quietly (on my own) release a balloon in remberance though I think about him most days. The heavy grief has mostly shifted though I don't think I can say I have yet reached a wistful stage that some people describe nor ever shall. I most talk to people on-line in forums such as these now for everyone else, life goes on but doesn't go on the same for me - still I don't take even small things for granted now and have become far more decisive about what it is that I want out of life.

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Natasha098 · 20/06/2017 22:21

User586746, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you find some comfort when you release his balloon next week.

User1496803865, you're so brave. Wish you the best of luck for the future.

I have just experienced a missed miscarriage. I am heartbroken. My baby was due on Christmas Day.

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