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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

7wk, looks like I'm miscarrying

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Mammabear31 · 05/05/2017 15:23

Have come over here from the pregnancy boards. Yesterday I started getting brown spotting, called EPU and went for a scan. Couldn't see anything in the sac but nurse said dates might be out, booked in for another scan next week. Spotting stopped, then about half an hour ago the heavy bleeding started. I've accepted it's over, but I am now so very sad that our much wanted, would have been a christmas baby is no longer a possibility.

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ForeverHopeful21 · 05/05/2017 16:20

Mammabear I'm so so sorry that you're going through this. Do you have someone with you? Are you managing with the bleeding ok?
It may be worth speaking to EPU again to let them know whats happening.
It's such a shit thing to go through. I wish I could say it's not over until it's over, but I know that when I had my MC (which also started with brown spotting) it pissed me off that people got my hopes up by saying that it could be fine.
Sending love x

HansSolo22 · 05/05/2017 17:44

I'm so sorry you're going through this, it's such a heartbreaking thing to come to terms with. There isn't much I can say other than be kind to yourself and give yourself time to recover and grieve for your little one. You will get through this xx

DancingUnicorn · 05/05/2017 21:15

I'm so sorry mama bear. It really really sucks. I hope you are coping ok physically. 💐

intuition · 05/05/2017 21:21

So sorry for your loss.

user1491403410 · 06/05/2017 16:38

I am the same as you, I was so so so excited for a Christmas baby. I had it all planned in my head. The fact it was due at Christmas makes it so much harder I think :-( I would of been due 20/12

Mammabear31 · 06/05/2017 19:56

Thank you for all your messages. I'm definitely having a MC now, so self medicating with wine and chocolate. I was devastated we wouldn't have our Xmas baby (due 22 Dec) but onwards and upwards, I'm just hoping this passes quickly so we can start trying again. Plus having a MC prior to DC1 means I kind of know what to expect. Just sucks!!!

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Mammabear31 · 06/05/2017 19:56

I'm so sorry user. [Flowers]

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Mammabear31 · 06/05/2017 19:57

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sweetpeas2 · 06/05/2017 20:37

hi mamabear, I too went for a scan yesterday, was due early november i think. they couldnt find a heartbeat. hugs to you

sweetpeas2 · 06/05/2017 20:48

i agree, my doctor told me i was fine, turned out it wasent at all :(

BlondeGinger · 06/05/2017 20:53

I'm so sorry the same happened to me. Take it easy and be kind to yourself.

Unihorn · 06/05/2017 20:53

I'm so very sorry, this happened to me and there is nothing like the feeling

I just want to say that I had a MMC with my first pregnancy, but my baby was due a year to the day that I found out about the loss (she was a week late in the end). I just want to give you some hope that it will happen for you one day. Make sure you look after yourself.

user1491403410 · 07/05/2017 11:46

Hope you are feeling ok, I'm just carrying on as have 2 dc already but every now and then it hits me and I feel gutted. Partner is still in denial due to the hospital telling us they thought it was a very very early pregnancy which is why nothing was shown on the scan. I know this isn't the case, I'm bleeding too much :-( so I'm worrying more for him than me really as he just needs to accept that it's gone.

Hope you feel better soon xx hugs xx

Mammabear31 · 09/05/2017 12:52

I'm really struggling today. I thought I was okay, Sunday I was upbeat and felt like I'd accepted it and ready to move on.

Then yesterday I took back the christmas baby outfits I had bought in the sale. I cancelled my follow up scan with EPU and my booking in appointment for later this week. And I fell apart. I'm meant to be going back to work tomorrow but I can't stop crying over silly things, and this isn't me - I'm usually quite stoic and an deal with most things but this is breaking me.

The bleeding is slowing down, and although I haven't felt the sac pass I think it's nearly over. I'm not in pain, I just feel so tired.

We're going on holiday on Saturday and I cannot wait. I just don't know how I'm going to get to Saturday right now.

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Shiva83 · 09/05/2017 19:53

I'm very sorry for your loses I have also just miscarried a Christmas baby due 25th Dec 😭 And my 2nd miscarriage this year. Feel free to message me if you need to talk

PossibiliTea · 10/05/2017 12:36

It's totally normal to be up and down I've been the same- one day enjoying life then falling apart the next. Keep looking forwards and make sure you do talk about it.

It is emotionally exhausting as well as physically so make sure you are taking care of yourself x

Shorty2014 · 10/05/2017 21:37

So sorry for your loss 😞 give yourself lots of time and relax.

I have also lost 2 pregnancies recently, I lost twins 22nd Dec 16 at 8 weeks then lost another pregnancy in April at 5 weeks. Mine too was due beginning of December and I'm absolutely heart broken. Especially when I find out my SIL is pregnant again and she just after my twins should of been due 😞 she currently has a little one of 10 months and half way through her next pregnancy! She does everything she shouldn't through pregnancy but still ends up with healthy babies, and I end up with nothing but a very empty heavy heart.

If anyone wants to pm me and chat feel free too.

Sending lots of baby dust to you all xxx

Shiva83 · 11/05/2017 19:28

I'm so sorry to hear that @shorty2014 😔 It's so unfair sometimes how things work out. I went to the EPU today for a scan to check my miscarriage was complete and there was loads of people in there swearing at there kids, feel bad for being judgemental but feels like those who aren't bothered sail through and we're trying to do everything right and it goes wrong. I was scared to jump in my last pregnancy! 😂

Have you had any test done to find out why you might be miscarrying?

PossibiliTea · 12/05/2017 08:32

Shiva I know the feeling. After I came out of the EPU when it was confirmed there was no heartbeat, there was someone outside about 9 months pregnant smoking...I continued to see this person most times I went back and had to bite my tongue when I ended up in the lift with her.

Shorty2014 · 12/05/2017 17:37

I do the exact same! Always judging 🙈
I look after lots of beautiful and scrummy babies so that comforts me a little knowing that I am doing my best to look after people's precious babies and giving them lots of fun at nursery 😊 I hope one day I'll get a chance to look after my own. I have been referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic so I have my appointment next month, hopefully they will do more tests. I still haven't had AF since my mc beginning of April. I tested a week ago when I was "due" on but bfn. I am just waiting out a little longer to test again because it's hard seeing the bfn.

Do you have any DC? Xxx

theclick · 12/05/2017 21:21

Shiva I know the feeling. After I came out of the EPU when it was confirmed there was no heartbeat, there was someone outside about 9 months pregnant smoking...I continued to see this person most times I went back and had to bite my tongue when I ended up in the lift with her.

Jesus. That is AWFUL

PossibiliTea · 12/05/2017 22:15

It was bad. My OH just made me not look and get in the car the first time, but I'm sure the lady behind me said something to her (as she was leaving the hospital with a newborn). It makes it very hard not to judge, but I think I would still have an opinion on that even if I hadn't been through what we had.

wtffgs · 12/05/2017 22:25

So sorry - take care

Mammabear31 · 20/05/2017 16:32

So over 2 weeks on, and I'm still bleeding. I've been an awful mummy today - have shouted at and smacked my 3 year old for being naughty. Guess I don't deserve another child, I can't even look after the one I have. It makes sense really, he wouldn't be so naughty if I weren't such a bad mum. Who am I kidding thinking that I can handle 2 children??? I just hope DH doesn't mind if we stick with one. I don't think I can do all this again.

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DancingUnicorn · 20/05/2017 16:43

Mammabear. Be kinder to yourself. You are going through an emotional and traumatic experience. You don't have to be ok all the time. You can talk about this with your 3 year old, and explain that sometimes parents get cross. They will forgive you.

Please don't think this happened because it is what you 'deserve'. ❤️

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