I have only had one miscarriage but so many elements of it were a complete surprise to me.
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- That with a MMC, there may be no sign that you've miscarried until you're scanned.
- Just how much waiting may be involved.
- That surgical procedures under GA may be required.
- That comfort and kind words may come from unexpected places. I never would have guessed that my male boss's reaction would be more supportive than my female best friend's. The warmth and compassion of the EPU and day surgery NHS staff has really stood out too.
- How lonely an experience it can be despite having a loving partner.
- That I would feel embarrassed by my previous reactions to other people's miscarriages. At the time I thought that I was sympathetic but I really had no idea what they were going through.