I wanted to share my experience encase anyone feels the way I did...also using it as a bit of a platform to spill how I feel as only my fiancé and mum know and feel a bit .. lost.
So I found out last week when I was 15 weeks that my babies heartbeat had stopped and infect the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks..
I don't know how in those 7 weeks my body couldn't do it's job now and at lease see it through and let me miscarry instead I had no idea for over a month , as I stroked my belly and spoke to my child that my pregnancy was no longer even "viable".
I feel absolutely cheated.
On Friday when I got the news I prayed I would go naturally I wanted to go through that, I deserved to be able to give birth to my child myself and feel the pain and have the tiny little bundle..
Over the weekend I had some pain but it was all in my head I think as no bleeding ever came.
My baby son was rushed into hospital on Sunday night seriously unwell and that took up al of my focus until today (I've been in hospital with his since then so was already exhausted!)
I didn't want to wait any longer as I was worried about infection , and I couldn't be booked in for a medical for another week so I opted for surgical which was today.
Let me tell you I am probably one of the most anxious people you will ever meet, I don't take pain killers I at so paranoid they will make me ill. I have a pretty bad heart problem and the slightest thing just makes my heart race to about 150bpm until I pass out it's pretty scary - so the thought of an anesthetitic was literally TERRIFYING I honestly thought my heart would explode and I would die. Plus I have a tiny Bmi im a size 0 so was convinced they would overdose me. (Anxiety literally makes me over think everything!!!)
I went to the ward on my own as my fiance had to look after our son... when I got there I was greeted and given my own room. The nurse was LOVELY I mean that really made a difference she was very genuine when saying how sorry she was. I was relieved I was scared they might judge me and think I'm a mad person.. I don't know why.
This was at 7.30am. At 8.30 after some questions , temp, blood pressure, changing into a gown and putting on my compression socks I was given 2 tablets under my tongue --- what were they?! Maybe sedatives I felt quite chilled after that and that is not like me!!!
45 minutes later they wheeled me upstair to the theatre omg I was a mess crying my eyes out I didn't want them to hurt my baby or take it away.. I know it was not alive but I wanted to protect them I wanted them where they were safe in mummies tummy. I probably sound crazy.
Anyway everyone introduced themselves there was about 6 people inuding doctors. Nurses, anaesthetists.
They put a cannula in my hand it was painless really as I was so upset and nervous I wasn't noticing.
They made me laugh and told me nice stories.. told me they were sorry and I'm safe.. they told me I would feel a sting going up my arm , the anaesthetic. They said think of a dream holiday and who you will take... I didn't get a chance -
I was out like a light.
I came round - low blood pressure needed oxygen. Stomach cramps on and off.
This was around 10.30... taken back to ward and was there until 5. I had to eat something and pee before I could leave..
I was there a while Just because I felt dizzy ... but seriously I feel okay physically. Cramps on and off.. minimum bleeding.. dizzy and sleepy still but that could be the busy few days I've had in the children's ward. Stings to pee too which is odd?? It did when I had my son but that's because I had a graze.. I don't know why it hurts this time?
It really wasn't anywhere near how I thought it would be. It was as okay as it could be.
The only thing I'll say is the emotional side, feeling it hard to let go and accept the baby is gone as I was out and didn't give birth. I feel like I have given birth yet no baby was wheeled through to me in the room.. feel on edge and as if I'm waiting for something. To meet my child.
The hospital cremates everything at a local crematorium.. I am going to lay flowers in my special place for him. I think it was a boy.. I guess I'll never know.
Love and hugs to anyone going through this or who has gone through this. I couldn't imagine how it would feel until it happened to me...
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