Friend has miscarriage last year - due date approaching. Should I acknowledge?

[BounceBounceSplishSplash]

Hello All

Apologies if this is the wrong place to post. I'll ask MN to move it if it is. A friend had a delivered miscarriage last year at approx 16 weeks. It wasn't her first miscarriage and it's the farthest she's got so far in pregnancy. Obviously she was/is devastated. The due date is approaching soon. Should I acknowledge this on the day? A message saying 'thinking of you both today' or something like that?

I don't want to cause her any more upset on the day but equally I don't want her to think I have forgotten.

What do you think the best thing to do would be?

Thanks

[BounceBounceSplishSplash]

Sorry, I should've mentioned that she lives in a different country so I can't meet with her.

[NotTheBelleoftheBall]

That's a very kind thought, and I'd imagine she'd be touched that you've remembered (I found that one of the hardest things about grief is when everyone else's life goes back to normal, so I'd appreciate that people remembered that life wasn't yet normal again for me).

I think I'd recommend sending her a message a couple of days before her due date, just to say something like 'I realise these next few days are likely to difficult, just so as you know I'm thinking of you both and here if you need me'.

You are a kind friend, have flowers

[Blueroses99]

That would be a lovely thought. I did appreciate such messages around my sons due date xx

[Iggi999]

Well she won't have forgotten so it's kind of you to show she's not the only one who cares.

[BounceBounceSplishSplash]

Thanks both - that's a good idea to send a message a few days before the due date rather than on the actual day. Will send something along the lines that belle suggested.