At the start of January we had our 12 week scan. We were immediately ushered up to a special room and told something was wrong. The following day we had a CVS test and the following week we received the devastating diagnosis that our baby had Edwards Syndrome and wouldn't survive. We made the horrible decision not to wait for a still birth, but to have a termination at 14 weeks before the baby could develop further. That was 5 days ago.
We tried for so long to get pregnant that the termination broke my heart. It still does.
DH (although not very D right now) had been struggling with this too. We're both having waves of upset. His way of dealing with it is to pretend it's not happened and to carry on as normal. The termination was on Friday and he was back in work on Monday. It's not Tuesday and I've not gone back. I don't think IBU given its only been 5 few days and I'm still heartbroken let alone bleeding FFS. He's digging at me. Making comments that I should be working and obviously resenting me bring off. Does he not understand our baby died?!! I understand his going back to work is his way of coping, but piss off and leave me alone. I wasn't planning on taking too long off work, I thought a week was reasonable and not lazy though????
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leighdinglady · 24/01/2017 14:33
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