TTC after miscarriage, PCOS, feeling hopeless

[emsler]

Hi all,

I had a MMC back in October at 11 weeks and have been TTC since then (3 months). I know that's not very long but it feels long - and last time I got pregnant on my second cycle and I think naively I was expecting that to happen again, especially because on SO many post-miscarriage threads lots of women post saying they conceived the first or second cycle after their miscarriage.

I also have PCOS which is currently untreated - I've never been on metformin or anything. During the pregnancy they identified some small cysts and one large-ish one but my cycles are fairly regular - between 28-34 days so I've never really pushed the issue with my GP. Do you think I should be on metformin? I assumed that if I managed to conceive last time everything must be fine but now I'm wondering if both conceiving and keeping the pregnancy would be more likely if my PCOS was being treated.

I'm 32 and my husband is 39 so I feel like our time is running out a little, especially as we would really love more than one (although at this stage one would be a blessing). I'm really, really struggling to stay positive and am starting to really panic.

Any advice would be so welcome - I'm reaching the end of my tether. :(

[looking4hope]

Hi emsler, so sorry to hear about your loss.

I had a 10w (baby measured 10+2) natural miscarriage two weeks ago. A few years ago, I was partially diagnosed with PCOS (also during a scan), but it hasn't been confirmed with blood tests. My periods have always been long and irregular, so you're really lucky on that front. If I'm not mistaken, you have PCOS if you have more than X (maybe 10? I forgot) cysts on your ovaries and they look like a string of pearls. Was this the first time you were diagnosed? If yes, I would definitely get a second opinion.

I've asked my GP to refer me to an endocrinologist so I can get properly diagnosed. I tried doing blood tests at a previous GP and they don't do them on different days of your cycle (day 3 and day 21) to properly look at how your hormone levels evolve throughout your cycle, so it was a waste of time. I'd advise you to get an endocrinology referral.

Remember that in the big scheme of things, 3 months is not a long time. Even fertile couples can spend 12 months TTC, so don't focus on that. I'm 31 and my DP is 38, so we're very close in age. I definitely don't feel like time is running out, we have a good few fertile years ahead of us. We also want two

I've done a fair bit of reading about hormone imbalances and PCOS, so feel free to PM me if you have any questions or just feel the need to talk to someone.

Also, do join the TTC after MC thread, we're a lovely bunch The TTC journey is a rollercoaster, but we're here to support and encourage each other. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2801459-TTC-after-miscarriage-thread-7

Sending you lots of hugs and hapoy thoughts!

[looking4hope]

Happy, not hapoy Sorry, typing while commuting.

[emsler]

Hi looking4hope, thank you for responding - I really appreciate it. I was in a bit of a state yesterday and really needed to get it out - thanks so much for listening.

[Littlemisssugarplum88]

Hi there,
Just wanted to share my experience with you also We had been trying for 18 months before my mmc in December. Before I got pregnant I was referred to a gynae consultant who carried out lots of tests on both me and my dp after ttc for so long. I was told that my hormone levels were out of range from blood tests; and they diagnosed me with pcos (even though I had no cysts on my ovaries on any scans).
Apparently you can either have pco where you actually have cysts grow on your ovaries, or you can have pcos (the syndrome) where you have no cysts but that your hormone levels are out of range.
I'd never had any symptoms of pcos, my periods were perfectly regular, didn't have any extra facial or body hair...could probably do with losing a stone but if I really tried I'm sure it would come off. I would never have known any different if it wasn't for the blood test.
So anyway, my consultant started me on metformin to help to regulate my hormone levels; and I managed to get pregnant not long after. I truly believe that it was the metformin that helped me to get pregnant in the first place.
Since my mc I have began taking the metformin again to allow it to kick start my hormones before I'm ready to start trying again.
I hope you are feeling a little better since your initial post yesterday. Sending you hugs xx

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