I had my 12 week scan today, my first scan and also my first pregnancy. There was no heartbeat and the fetus had stopped growing at 9.5 weeks :( I had been feeling anxious too about mmc but thought I was being paranoid and worrying too much. I had no bleeding whatsoever so thought everything was going to plan but the news was devastating..
We were planning to tell our family on Christmas Day.. This whole thing has happened at a really awkward time of year and don't think I can get an appointment till the new year.. But I was wondering which procedures did other's go through if they had a MMC with a baby that stopped growing at 9.5-10weeks.. I've read elsewhere that women (majority who had lost at 5-6 weeks) that waited to MC naturally or took the pill experienced a lot of pain and bleeding.. It worries me how much more painful and bleeding it is for someone who is at 9.5-10weeks :(. I'm frightened of the operation route as I've never been under general anaesthetic but reading how much less pain and bleeding there was seems better.. I really don't know what to do :(
I'm trying to stay positive and remind myself that we were lucky to be pregnant and on our first month of TTC even if it unfortunately ended in a MMC, we know that we can be pregnant again. I also think the fetus just wasn't a healthy one to begin with and nature took it's course which if it was the case I'm greatful for.
2016 has honestly been an awful year. I'm glad to see the back of it but moving onwards and forwards a new year and a new start. Fingers crossed for us all for happy healthy pregnancies. 
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MMC at 12 wk scan, stopped growing at 9.5 wks
appleseedpip · 23/12/2016 03:56
So so sorry, it's utterly heartbreaking, such a hard thing to go through. I've had 2 MMCs and had the surgery each time. I found it a very calm experience both times and was so well looked after at hospital. I had minimal pain and bleeding afterwards which helped the emotional recovery.
Everything crossed for a healthy pregnancy for you soon
I had a mmc at 11 weeks but baby was only measuring 9 weeks (it doesn't necessarily mean it stopped growing at 9 weeks though - I had regular scans for another medical condition and saw my baby grew slowly between 6 and 9 weeks and had a heartbeat until 10.5 weeks).
I had medical management at home and didn't really have any pain at all with it. The bleeding wasn't that heavy either but I did have period like bleeding for over 6 weeks (I bled for a long time after my other pregnancies too though).
Hi apple, I'm sorry for your loss.
I had a mmc at the same stage as you exactly, just three weeks ago - I discovered slightly earlier but was measuring 9+5. I opted for surgery and I'm glad I did. The told me that there was a lot of pregnancy tissue - it would have been very upsetting (and no doubt painful) to pass that. Also, given the late stage and that it isn't happening naturally, the chances of retained tissue are probably higher, so an ERPC might be necessary anyway, even after going through it all naturally or with tablets. I had very little bleeding or pain afterwards. I had one lot of paracetamol afterwards and that was it.
For me the main reasons for choosing surgery were: having it be all over quickly; control over when it would happen; not too much bleeding; not seeing the fetus when it passed; less pain.
I also agree - most of those who opt for natural / medical management seem to measure much smaller - almost 10 weeks is quite late for these routes.
The GA is nothing to worry about at all - I've had three this year for various reasons and they have been fine. This one is very mild as the procedure is short. Mine took a bit longer than planned, but the only side effect was a sore throat for a couple of days.
Everyone at the hospital was lovely and I felt well looked after too. They were sensitive and kind given my circumstances.
I hope you're doing ok. It is just heartbreaking. I have found the emotional side much harder than the physical, especially with Christmas around the corner. 
Good luck with deciding what to do.
Dear apple,
So sorry to hear about your loss.
I would recommend the surgery, at your stage of pregnancy. I've unfortunately experienced both; surgery (twice) and 1 natural miscarriage of a 9w embryo. The surgery was much easier, emotionally and physically. It's quick, pain free and fast recovery.
After my natural miscarriage I bled for 3 months and had "retained products". The process of miscarrying naturally was traumatic, but I dealt with it at home alone.
Book in for the ERPC as soon as you can if you do decide to do this, but can I gently suggest you also get prepared in case it does happen at home before your operation. Maternity pads, old towels and painkillers. I'm not trying to scare you, but medical staff (in my experience) minimise what later 1st trimester miscarriages are like. It's not like a heavy period, for most, having read many experiences on the 'coping with practicalities of miscarriage' thread.
Once again I'm sorry for your loss
I'm so very sorry for your loss - I had a MMC at a similar stage in February, I was 12 weeks and the baby measured 9 weeks. I opted for the medical management and I was glad that I did - at this stage it's like a mini labour (not the heavy period that medical professionals might tell you it is) but for me I feel that going through the actual process was helpful to my emotional recovery. I worry that had I gone into surgery pregnant and come out not, it would have been difficult to accept what had actually happened. That was just me though and everyone's experience is different, I just wanted to offer another perspective. Once again, I am so sorry you are going through this
Hi apple, so sorry you've had a mmc. It's such sad news, especially this time of year
I also had a mmc last Thursday. I should have been 11 weeks; I'd had no bleeding or anything but I began passing brown mucous so I was referred to epu where they confirmed I'd had a mmc. We saw the heartbeat at 7 weeks and they never noticed anything was wrong at the scan, then apparently the foetus died a couple of days after that scan. Still can't believe now that after 4 weeks I didn't have any obvious signs 
The hospital advised me that there was a waiting list of up to a week for surgical management. I came home and decided I wanted the process to start sooner rather than later and opted for medical management the next day (on the Friday). I had cramping and bleeding for 48 hours before passing the pregnancy sac on the Sunday; it came away in one piece and I couldn't make out the foetus at all which was only measuring 6mm anyway. The sac was only slightly smaller than the palm of my hand.
The pessaries also made me vomit the night I'd had them, I was warned about this before I was given them.
7 days on and I've got no pain or bleeding now, I just feel completely wiped out with all the emotional and physical side to it all.
Hoping you have a speedy and pain free recovery whichever route you chose xxx
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