MMC a few weeks ago - first BFP in 7 years

[curlingandtwirling]

I had a miscarriage on 12th November, at 6+1wks and am now feeling more determined than I ever have to get pregnant again.

We have been TTC for over 7 years, never even had to think about testing before, as my cycles are regular. For the past 3-4 years I've not even counted days... hence why I was 8 days late when I finally POAS.

So, here I am, counting and obsessing frantically. I've googled and figured out that I should count 12/11 as Day 1 and as I know I ovulate on day 15/16 usually, therefore today I should be 9 dpo. I want to POAS, because I'm spending every waking hour (and dreaming) about being pregnant again.

Can someone please talk some sense into me? Is this a normal reaction?

I've read some heartbreaking threads on here, and I'm so sorry to each and everyone of you who have suffered a loss.

[CmereTilliTellYa]

Firstly I'm so sorry about your MMC. That may well have an impact on how you are feeling for a long time so allow yourself some time (I'm not suggesting not TTC just that the emotional and hormonal impact can last quite some time). 9 dpo is very early to test so id try to hold out for a few more days if you can

On the general issue - you mention trying to conceive for over 7 years, is this right? Have you been pregnant before in this time or had any investigations if not? Just want to clarify the situation so I don't offer any useless advice!

[curlingandtwirling]

Hi CmereTilliTellYa, I know it's sensible to wait.

Yes, over 7 years TTC. We were referred for IVF, had tests which came back as unexplained, but unfortunately, we were turned down by the NHS, and decided we couldn't afford to do it privately. We accepted it and moved on.

Then, right out of the blue, a BFP! I'm still so happy we got that, but obviously it didn't last and to say I'm devastated is an understatement.

I'm also 43. The nurse at the EPU was really encouraging and said to go for it, as she see's lots of happy endings. My GP was less enthusiastic.

We have decided to actively TTC until I'm 44, which will be in 9 months time.

Thank you so much for replying...I was working myself up into full on obsessive mode!

[CmereTilliTellYa]

I had a MMC just before getting pregnant with my DD. The Dr did say it can sometimes boost hormone levels to the point that the next pregnancy is successful. I don't know how true that is but I took some comfort from it and it was the case for me. I hope you get good news very soon.

[curlingandtwirling]

Thank you for your kind words, it does help to hear positive stories with happy endings

I'm a little less stressed today and I've decided to just try and chill and see what happens. Although I may feel differently tomorrow!

[curlingandtwirling]

So, I couldn't wait I did a test and it was negative. However, last night when I looked at the test there is a definite faint line, no squinting required. I tested again, this time negative, no faint line and this morning I have red blood.
I'm devastated. Although I know the chances of getting another BFP are 0% for me now.
I had moved on, accepting it wasn't meant to be and now here I am, back to all the heartache of hoping every month.
The bleeding has started exactly as my normal cycle would, so I suppose in a way, at least I can have an idea where I am for 2ww.

[bummymummy77]

I'm so so sorry op.

After two and a half years of ttc we had an early miscarriage in Feb.

It's so hard.

Give yourself time to grieve.

[Mistletoetastic]

My sympathies OP.

I was TTC for 2.5 years, I was stunned when I tested positive in October but I am currently having a miscarriage at 13 weeks, have surgery booked for Monday, a shock as no sign that anything was wrong until the 12 week scan showed that the baby had died.

After ttc for so long I really want to know how I conceived that cycle so I can do it again! if that makes sense? what was the magic trick? do you feel the same? I feel the sense of urgency, I am nearly 42.

I am back on the conception support vitamins, I am making DH take them too and will up the vegetables in our diet too, lots of spinach and brocoli. I bought some pre seed lube, will try that.

The nurse who talked to me after the scan said that we need to wait until a normal period arrives, she said something about womb lining. Were you given that advice?

I know its a difficult time of year but could you take a break away some where?

[Mistletoetastic]

OP sorry to read your latest update.

[bummymummy77]

Mistletoe I'm so so sorry. I don't actually know what to say really. But I'm sending you a massive hug.