Incomplete miscarriage - experiences?

[Wibblewobble100]

Just wanted to vent. I put the first part of this story on another thread, but didn't want to hijack it hence starting my own.
First pregnancy I was incredibly lucky: conceived easily, healthy pregnancy, traumatic delivery but all fine in the end.
Trying to produce a little brother or sister though has been hard so far. TTC 12 months, 1st BFP July early MC in Aug.
2 nd BFP sept, healthy scan at 7 +5, but bleeding at 11+5 and scan showed MMC with baby 8+3 size. I though I went on to miscarry the next day - very intense cramps, lots of bleeding and big clots. I didn't see an obvious sac but it all went down the loo. Went to get a scan today to check but the sac was still obvious low around the cervix. They thought they might be able to pull it out with forceps by doing a speculum exam, but it wasn't obvious. Again lots of clots, def some fetal tissue, but perhaps not all of it. I've had a lot of bleeding since. If it hasn't settled in the next 24 hours I'm likely to need Erpc, which I know is probably fine, but I've never had a GA and it scares me.
So I suppose I'm just looking for a little solidarity... I feel really pesemistic now, and I'm just not sure how I'll know whether everything has passed. I don't want a GA but I don't want retained products either.
I can't help but feel when this is all over, if I get pregnant again it'll just happen again and I'm so sad.

[fuzzywuzzy]

I'm so sorry for your loss Wibble.

I have had five miscarriages last was a MMC the first surgical management failed and I had to have a second as there was retained product.

The GA was fine, & it's a very short procedure I was back on my feet the same day with very little bleeding and just a vague uncomfortable feeling where I think uterus was contracting back. After the second smm I had very little bleeding which stopped within a week.

If you're worried about GA's talk it thro with the anaesthetist it is a very short procedure and hopefully you will go on to have a healthy pregnancy.

I was too scared to try again for a while as the miscarriage had been so traumatic.

The important thing is to take time to grieve and emotionally heal from your loss. Sending you hugs, and I hope the procedure goes by quickly for you.

[hudeina]

Am so sorry fot your loss my dear! I was spotting for about 3days,i ws vry worried,$ iwent fr scan it says my baby died i wnt be able to cntinue pregnancy,no heartbeat,no sac,i cried so much thnkng my baby.but the day after i gt a miscarriag naturally and passed sme sac and big tissue bt still my tissue left insd my uters,am usng swhli medcn to pass my tissue.nw on am absolutely fine waiting on next week t go for a scan,if smthing left in my uterus.i pray to god everythng goes well

[Littleliz33053]

Hi girls. So sorry Youve had to go through this ladies. It really is horrible :(

I didnt even know i was pregnant. I thought i was having a regular period which was lasting longer than usual. Then boom! I was out shopping with my mum and it felt like my waters had broke with horrendous cramps and blood just poured out of me. I absolutely ruined the back of the car seat getting home. Got to the loo and the amount of blood and clots that left my body was unimaginable!
Called an ambulance as i didnt know what was wrong with me to find out i was pregnant...... well, after that i didnt think i was anymore.
Had a few tests and internals to find the sac was still there and id had an imcomplete miscarriage.
Ive been sent home and need to wait for another scan in 10 days to check if the baby is still there or not.

I cant believe after everything i see my body release its still there. Will i bleed again like before and it release the sac? Or will i need this removing?? Im so confused. I have to go through christmas not knowing anything! Its torture :(