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Tablets or surgery?

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littletike Tue 18-Oct-16 15:57:20

I need to decide by tomorrow morning which option if any....

I have a toddler at home and was due to fly to Spain at the weekend but have had to cancel sad

Thoughts and experiences would be really appreciated...

Derbyday Tue 18-Oct-16 18:12:21

I've done both. ERPC in 2011 and pills today. Today has been horrific - the pain unbearable for over 2 hours. Personally, I would opt for surgery again if I had to choose.

KittyandTeal Tue 18-Oct-16 18:16:01

I think it really depends how far you are along.

I've had medical management for a mmc at 14 weeks. I needed to be in hospital for pain relief and, tbh, at that gestation it's not far off labour/giving birth but obviously not as painful or as long (I've been through 'labour' at 14 weeks, 22 weeks and full term to a live baby. 22 weeks was by far the worst and most painful)

I don't have experience of surgery but from other posters I gather it is fairly quick and the pain isn't drawn out as long. I opted for medical as I wanted to see him, have him cremated so he could be with his sister.

somethingfromnothing Tue 18-Oct-16 18:22:05

I had surgical option yesterday. I was really worried about the anaesthetic but it was so quick and I felt fine when I woke up. Haven't had too much bleeding or pain. I have a 4 year old at home and was so worried about having a natural mc at home when she was around so I really felt like I needed it to happen at hospital. It's difficult though, I don't think there is an easy option. Sorry for your loss flowers

AppleMagic Tue 18-Oct-16 18:27:44

How quickly can they do the erpc? I went for the tablets (was allowed to take them at home) as they told me the wait time for surgery was two weeks and I wanted to have some control over the timings. I was 10weeks with baby measuring 8 and found the tablets ok. It wasn't pleasant but not painful and it was much less traumatic than I expected it to be. I slept through a lot of it, then the worst bit was over in a few minutes. I did then bleed off and on for 8 weeks though which was a bit rubbish so not sure what I'd opt for if I had my time again.

littletike Tue 18-Oct-16 18:31:39

I should be 9 weeks but measuring about 6 weeks. I've already been lightly bleeding for a week and it's doing my head in. I just want to get on with my life iyswim?

I think I'll go for the surgical option as I don't fancy DC seeing me suffering either sad

littletike Tue 18-Oct-16 18:38:48

AppleMagic two weeks? shock They said Thursday if I wanted to be conscious or within 5 days with anaesthetic.

AppleMagic Tue 18-Oct-16 18:53:35

I was shocked too. It was Ireland not UK though. I was told that going private would have made no difference either.

somethingfromnothing Tue 18-Oct-16 19:44:09

I got scanned on Friday and booked in on the Monday, 2 weeks seems so long to wait!

washingsomuchwashing Tue 18-Oct-16 19:46:50

Surgical was absolutely fine for me. Well as fine as these things can be.

somethingfromnothing Tue 18-Oct-16 19:47:15

I had bleeding for over a week too littletike and I felt really unwell with it. Since the surgery I have felt much better although I haven't really dealt with the emotional side of it yet because I've been so focused on the physical side of it.

Selfimproved Tue 18-Oct-16 19:50:30

I took the tablets and nothing happened, still had to have the surgery.
Not sure if it was the tablets or just my emotional state but they made me feel like the world was going too fast.

AliBingo Tue 18-Oct-16 23:01:36

I had two failed medicals and opted for ERPC on 7 October as l have other kids to think about. There was a delay on the day but the procedure and the GA were fine, no pain otlr anything x

littletike Wed 19-Oct-16 20:15:40

Thank you for sharing your experiences.

I'm booked in on Monday for surgery though judging by the pain I'm in I'm hoping it will be over by then.

KittyandTeal Wed 19-Oct-16 20:20:20

Either way I hope it is as quick and painless as possible.

Be kind and gentle with yourself. Do whatever you need to to get through 💐

AliBingo Wed 19-Oct-16 20:48:42

Sorry to hear that you're in pain. Hope it happens quickly, if this is it. Feel free to post later if you have questions or want some company, I'll try and check in and see how you're doing. Ali x

littletike Thu 20-Oct-16 14:24:11

Thank you. I'm ok if I keep on top of the pain relief but have woken up two nights now in pain. But the bleeding isn't as heavy as I'd expected or read about though I think I passed the sac earlier. Feels odd to have it in the bin...

I feel strangely calm and detached about it all at the moment.

I am feeling really guilty about dc missing their holiday though and all the missed memories - instead they're stuck indoors with me sad

ImogenTubbs Thu 20-Oct-16 21:27:55

Hope you're ok, OP. I had the surgery last Friday (v similar to you - MMC, should have been 9 weeks, stopped growing just before 7). Not a pleasant experience, but went very smoothly. Managed one day of rest before having to run around after DD again. Only had mild bleeding and pain. Hope that whatever happens you are ok and have support. There'll be plenty more chances to go to Spain - it's not going anywhere!

ImogenTubbs Thu 20-Oct-16 21:29:30

Sorry, I somehow missed the detail of your last post when you said you think it's happened already. Clearly not thinking straight still! Hope you're ok.

AliBingo Thu 20-Oct-16 21:42:17

Hi littletike, I read your message earlier but couldn't get a reply to send on my phone.

I hope that the sac has passed as it means the worst is over. My pain did stop after the sac passed though, but I continued to bleed for another week. Heaviest day was day sac passed though.

Don't worry about your little one, they won't know what's going on and you will have plenty of other lovely holidays in future.

I felt detached too when mine happened. In a way relieved it had happened rather than hanging over me. But then a lingering sadness that won't go away. And a desperation to be pregnant again, yet terrified at the same time.

How's your pain now? hope it's getting better and the bleeding is lighter. Have you got someone with you? Try and looking after yourself xx

littletike Fri 21-Oct-16 05:33:00

Thankyou.

Pain is more like discomfort now but awake at 3.30 am for the third day unable to sleep.

I don't usually crave sweet things but have had constant sugar cravings since this started - trying to control it as the last thing I need is to put on weight!

DP is here but he's annoying me hanging around!

AliBingo Fri 21-Oct-16 09:54:01

Hormones are cruel with the carb and sugar cravings aren't they sad

Are you getting out and about at all or staying home? At least it's the weekend now x

littletike Fri 21-Oct-16 10:08:19

Been to the supermarket but that's about it. Will try to get out over the weekend but trying to think what to do to entertain dc as I hasn't made any plans as we were due to be away!

user1476983585 Fri 21-Oct-16 10:37:59

Hi Littletike, I'm sorry for your loss and I know what you going through. I had op 2 weeks ago due to missed miscarriage at 13 weeks. I felt really down and disattached from the whole everyday life that I forgot about upcoming half term break ,so now need to arrange something for my three kids .Wish you all the best x

AliBingo Fri 21-Oct-16 10:59:49

I tried to carry on as normal with mine but just carried loads of pads and spare clothes. Upside was I found it good to be busy and distracted, downside was that I had to pass the sac in a leisure centre toilet while the 3 kids were with me.

There's loads of daft Halloween stuff around here for half term which might be fun, all the local attractions and soft plays and even garden centres are doing stuff.

Look after yourself x

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