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Twin miscarriage- any experience?

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ooharmehearties Fri 07-Oct-16 20:58:27

I'm 8 weeks with twins. I only found out as I had an early scan after suddenly all my strong symptoms decreased and I did a digi preg test that showed the weeks had decreased.
So now I'm cramping and bleeding and preparing for the worst. sadI have to wait ten days for another scan to see what's happened.
I've been reading up on twin miscarriage and some stories focus on the fact that you can miscarry one but the other survives.
Anyone had any experience of this, and what were your symptoms? I know I'm clutching at straws but a little bit of hope is better than none.

AlbusPercival Fri 07-Oct-16 21:02:04

I'm afraid I lost both, but neither had developed.

However I have a friend who had a twin pregnancy and lost one and the other had survived

ooharmehearties Fri 07-Oct-16 21:13:05

Thanks for replying albus. It's the utter helplessness that's so unfair. I can't do a buggering thing about it.

Now I'm going to torture myself with online stories of surviving twins when in reality it probably is the end.
Oof, time for some more paracetamol methinks.

ooharmehearties Fri 07-Oct-16 21:14:39

And on the scan both had well developed sacs and fetal poles etc. I wonder if that gives them a better chance.

AlbusPercival Fri 07-Oct-16 21:23:31

I think if you can stay away from google it would be a good thing, though I completely understand the compulsion flowers

TigerLily666 Fri 07-Oct-16 21:41:52

I am so sorry you are going through this and yes it is horribly unfair. But you are not alone and there are people around who can understand / give you support.

I haven't any experience of twin miscarriage but I was in a similar situation a few years ago. Minor spotting, early scan about 8 weeks, no heartbeat on scan but left for 2 weeks so that they could be sure baby wasn't developing. It was horrific waiting. I went to work as I didn't know what else to do and didn't want to have to explain why I needed so much time off. I kept imagining that I still had symptoms and I had to keep reminding myself the baby had probably gone. In the end I cracked and asked for earlier appointment because I wasn't coping (despite being told I had to wait for two weeks it transpired they only needed 10 days). In the end I miscarried the night before my 2nd scan.

It's completely understandable that you hope one twin survives - I hope this happens, I really do.

Floralnomad Fri 07-Oct-16 21:47:39

I miscarried one twin at 12 weeks , I had been having really bad sickness from about 2 weeks and then one morning just had a dragging sensation and then a massive bleed , and when I say massive I mean massacre style , it was so bad that my mum phoned an ambulance who carted me away . I have no clue how the other one hang on in there but he did and is 24 in January . Hope you get a positive outcome .

Frazzled2207 Fri 07-Oct-16 21:59:13

Sorry you're going through this. My friend had cramping and bleeding at 10 weeks and feared the worst. She lost one but the other is now 3. Hope you get some answers soon.

ooharmehearties Fri 07-Oct-16 22:03:34

Thanks for your replies. You can't help but hope. I had a miscarriage in March, and this one was different, I had such strong symptoms and felt more confident it was viable.

ooharmehearties Sat 08-Oct-16 09:55:21

Rough sleepless night. Pretty sure I've passed 2 sacs but have to wait to confirm at the scan. sad

TigerLily666 Sat 08-Oct-16 11:59:58

Sending hugs.

PoppyPicklesPenguin Sat 08-Oct-16 12:08:02

So sorry to hear this, I have had many miscarriages and it is heartbreaking so flowers for you. The having to wait for the follow up to confirm what is happening is so very difficult, it is the feeling you can do nothing so just try to do the impossible which is to stay away from Google, talk as much as you want on here, I found breathing exercises helped (and I know it sounds impossible) but it was the only thing that got me through when I felt utterly distraught.

I myself have no experience of a twin loss but I am however nearly 39 and I was a twin, my mum lost my twin so there is hope it may be ok flowers I keep everything crossed for you.

Frazzled2207 Sat 08-Oct-16 13:49:46

So sorry x

ooharmehearties Sat 08-Oct-16 13:51:26

Thanks for your kind replies. Just trying to keep busy but so hard to focus on anything.

ooharmehearties Tue 11-Oct-16 09:44:04

Got an earlier scan appointment for later today. Midwife told me off for not calling when I started bleeding and coping alone.
At least I'll know for sure they're both gone and I can start grieving.

ooharmehearties Tue 11-Oct-16 13:02:35

Confirmed the pregnancy is gone.
Just feel numb at the moment. They've put me in a windowless room to wait for someone to come and talk to me.

Yawnyawnallday Tue 11-Oct-16 13:07:24

So sorry for your terrible loss. My sister went through almost exactly the same thing. I have nothing useful or helpful to say. I hope you get good care and have someone to advocate for you if you need it.

purpleviolet1 Tue 11-Oct-16 13:08:57

So sorry flowers there are no words to describe miscarriages. A very big sense of loss. Hope you have decent support in rl and do take the time off work to grieve x

Dustpan Thu 13-Oct-16 14:03:37

So very sorry to hear this. Be gentle with yourself and let it all fall apart of you need to and when you need to. So sorry to hear of the loss of your two precious ones. X

RoseAnnear Mon 17-Oct-16 23:26:40

I lost twins 4 weeks ago. It's awful, truly heart wrenching.

I have a very close nit group of friends who I can be very honest with and whom I have told all. We had an open and frank discussion (all of us have no suffered a miscarriage) and we all honestly feel it's a different experience to lose twins. I'm not saying it's worse, not at all but to lose one and then hope and lose the other is like nothing I've ever experienced.

I was 'fine' for a couple of days, I know realise this was a bit of shock and a delayed reaction.

After 4 weeks I'm functioning now but still completely on the ropes.

My heart goes out to you x

ooharmehearties Tue 18-Oct-16 22:32:07

Thankyou. So sorry you have experienced this too sad. I'm having longer bits of time where I'm functioning and ok, then I remember and I can't really believe it, like it was a dream. You're right, with twins there's that cruel hope that one may have survived, and when you come to terms with both losses, it feels extra intense.
My body is so efficient. Efficient at ejecting them, and efficient at recovering, and it's like I was never pregnant. Bleeding stopped after a week, physically I'm fit as a fiddle. Just a double bloom of sadness when I stop being busy. And the memory of holding them in my hands, so fragile and alien. X

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