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Any experiences of miscarriage without investigation/intervention to share?

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grainmum Sun 11-Sep-16 21:00:29

Hi,

I've had a missed miscarriage before, at 10 weeks, then a successful pregnancy and I have a beautiful boy who is 3 years old. We stopped using contraception a couple of months ago and on the first cycle my period was late. I had a mirena in before, removed in April and since then my cycle has been around 26 days. A pregnancy test on day 28 was negative, but faintly positive on day 31, then more convincing the week after.

Anyway, fast forward to Saturday (6w4d pregnant) I started bleeding, lightly at first, now like a period.

I'm prepared to accept that this pregnancy has failed. I would just like to hear experiences of others who have miscarried and accepted it without Drs/scans/bloods etc. I'd like to accept it as a natural process and not medicalise it.

Thank you.

SharkBastard Thu 15-Sep-16 07:18:04

I've had 2 miscarriages without medical intervention. I felt the natural 'stay at home' route was more comfortable for me.

I started bleeding at 6+2 on a Sunday, did the school run on Monday morning, phoned in sick at work, passed it on the Monday, did the school run, then went back to work on Tuesday. That was my first miscarriage.

2nd one I had to take a week off work as it didn't pass as quick as my first but I did it all at home. I just bought some codeine and used a heat pad and let nature do its thing. I'll be forever grateful that my body was able to pass it without the need of medical intervention as I think that's more traumatic

Take care of yourself and monitor any symptoms like tempreature etc flowers

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar Fri 23-Sep-16 16:02:28

I've done it at home too. Was fortunate that I didn't need to take time off work as the physical symptoms were fairly manageable with ordinary pain killers and being in work enabled me to focus on something else for a while. (I realise that's not the best thing for everyone, but it worked for me).
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NeedMoreSleepOrSugar Fri 23-Sep-16 16:05:55

Just realised the last line of my post disappeared.

I'm sorry for your loss - if it is indeed a loss (I also had heavy bleeding with DD at 7 weeks and she was fine). Try to be kind to yourself and take it as easy as possible flowers

hazeyjane Fri 23-Sep-16 16:07:13

Having had a very complicated miscarriage, I think I would feel better to have the scans and bloods, but understand your position.

But make sure you seek help if you have even the slightest worry.

I am really sorry for your loss.flowers

neveradullmoment99 Sat 24-Sep-16 15:28:18

I miscarried at about 6 wks. Very early but still devastated. I had used a digital test. During my bleeding i tested with the same type of test and it read 'not pregnant'. It was brutal. Anway, this happened nearly 6 years ago. I fell pregnant about 6 months later with my beautiful daughter. I often think about the miscarriage and just accept that for me, it was natures way as something must have been wrong and i wouldnt have the beautiful little girl i have now smile

neveradullmoment99 Sat 24-Sep-16 15:30:22

I never went to the doctor after this happened. I like you just accepted it. More so because of the test i took but oh i cried. Hope everything works out for you flowers

grainmum Mon 03-Oct-16 22:00:45

Thanks everyone for replies. 3 weeks on from starting bleeding, still bleeding. I did end up going to the EPU (1 week after bleeding started) when the mid-wife phoned me in advance of my booking appointment, and put doubt in my mind that I was doing the right thing. Anyway, scan showed probable incomplete miscarriage. "luckily" for me the medical team were in theatre and a technical problem meant bloods weren't an option and the nurse that I saw and I decided to continue with conservative management, and discharged me with advice to repeat a pregnancy test after 2-3 weeks.

I finally did pregnancy test yesterday that was negative. That was a relief - I'm still bleeding, so I was worried that it would still be positive and another cascade of intervention would start - either repeated bloods or surgical management etc... I'm fed up now though, would love to be wearing underwear without any protection!

fatandlumpy Wed 19-Oct-16 06:39:40

Sadly, I'm experiencing a miscarriage without any intervention right now. I was(!) about 7weeks pregnant, but I think my baby was never truly viable and gave up the struggle at about 5weeks (when my early yet horrendous morning sickness started to get better). Last week I started to get bouts of diarrhoea and continuous cramping, which was when I 'knew' things were not 'right'. I called my Mum to let her know my worries and sure enough I started to spot on Sunday. I do a lot of free-lance University tutoring and was teaching (4hrs) that day. I finished up and got the boyfriend to give me a lift home (I usually commute by bike), and spent the rest of Sunday in bed (I suppose, trying to prevent the inevitable). The spotting had subsided considerably, so on Monday I went to work as usual. At work I started to gush blood, and by the afternoon I had passed the sac (sorry for the overshared, but it came away from me in a tissue. I'm a biologist, so I knew what I was looking at. (Incidentally, Baby is now safely and hygenically wrapped up in my freezer at home. Just waiting for some time to find somewhere pretty.- Apologies if you think that's odd, but I would like to say 'Good-bye' nicely).

I called my Dr (she had booked me in with a midwife for a booking in appointment yesterday (Tuesday... ironically), just to cancel the appointment and also to let her know. Me and my OH had been referred for Secondary Infertility and I was about to have a HSG before starting clomid, but was lucky enough to fall pregnant naturally just about the time of our initial appointment with the excellent consultant. I had called my Dr the week before to let her know I fell pregnant and had just called the consultant to thank her for everything, but the treatment plan wasn't needed... bugger....

Anyhow... my Dr was great. She asked if I wanted to go to hospital or to see her and I said no. As I had already passed the sac I knew the worst was over (touch wood!). I'm 'tender' but not in pain. Yesterday is just like a normal period (bright pink though!), this morning is like a light period (watery pink with small brown clots). I biked home last night with no pain or discomfort. I've told 1 friend at work and my boss (just in case things go bad). My partner has ADHD and so he's finding it difficult to process. I have a 3 and a half year old who's not eating his sodding dinner and is providing the best distraction that there can be.

I am 40yrs old. Told the Dr that now I know my tubes aren't blocked there's no need to pursue any more fertility investgations. Me and OH will probably try for up to another year, but my FSH is elevated (11.7), so I think in a couple of years any decision would be beyond me.

I know (up until now!) I have very lucky. I'm monitoring my bleeding and taking my temperature (normal) for signs of anything dodgy.

I'm sorry for all your losses and I hope you all get the very best medical care you need.

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