Hi,
I had a mmc a week ago. I had a feeling something wasn't right at 11 weeks so went to hospital. I wasn't told much, though they said there was no heartbeat. Stupidly I held out hope till Monday (I knew deep down what no heartbeat meant, but tried to convince myself there was a mistake).
I returned Monday, they confirmed mmc and had d&c Tuesday. Physically I'm recovering well, with minor bleeding.
Mentally...not so good! I feel isolated (Though everyone has been lovely who I've told) and extremely sorry for myself. I'm being very passive aggressive to my DH. (example-'Are you OK love?' l'What do you think, I've just lost a baby').
I'm hoping someone will just tell me what to do. I feel lost.
I have an 18 month old DS, I need to be OK for him.
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Finding the aftermath of mmc much harder than I expected. Any ideas?
sureitsgrand · 19/08/2016 17:21
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It's truely heartbreaking. I had an MVA (manual vacuum aspiration) on Wednesday. My baby died at 8 weeks.
I also feel very alone and am struggling with my feelings. I'm very teary and just feel a deep deep sadness. I thought I was coping well. I had almost 2 weeks between the miscarriage being confirmed and the procedure and was doing ok in that time but since Wednesday I'm shocked at how hard I'm finding it.
I also have a 2 year old to look after. DH is being great but I can't help but think he doesn't truely know how I feel.
I have no real advice just that you aren't alone. If you want to PM me then please do. I don't have many people to talk to about this either. 
Sure and Banana, just wanted to let you know that I am in the same boat too. Found out I'd had a MMC on Wednesday at 10+3, baby was perfectly formed and measured 10+, I too knew something was wrong before the scan somehow and was very upset before I even saw the screen. I had the surgical procedure yesterday. I'm also OK physically, little pain or bleeding but just totally emotionally broken.
I really don't have any advice but just wanted to say your both not alone and I'm be glad of someone to talk to also.
This was my first pregnancy and DH is being supportive but it's just so surreal. I poured myself a proper coffee this morning then threw it away as I just couldn't drink it.
We had the next six months measured out and planned, I'm not working at the moment so had lots of little projects in mind relating to the baby, just a bit lost now.
Really hope you are both ok tonight, it's just so shit isn't it.
Oh monkey. So sad to hear someone else is going through this. I'm emotionally broken. I didn't know I could actually feel so sad. So nice to speak to other people who understand although I wish we all didn't have to feel this pain. Hope you are both doing ok this morning. I tend to feel my worst in the evening when my toddler is in bed and I have time to myself. Hugs to you both today.
Hello ladies and hello Beans, I'm so sorry you've had such a hard week back at work, none of this is fair at all. I've had a wobbler over Facebook tonight, baby bump pics just sent me over the edge, but at least I can just log off that for now, not so easy at work. 
It's been an odd day here. I've not slept for more than a couple of hours at a time since Tuesday so am really struggling. I think it may be the GP on Monday for some knock out drops for me, I'm sure I'd feel a little more human.
Managed to have a chat about everything with DH this evening, he's completely supporting me but never has been one for big emotional chats so it was a big deal. I was trying to explain the physical feelings of being pregnant and seeing my body change then it all just going in the blink of an eye. I seem to be worst first thing when I wake as for a second I forget what's happened then it hits me full force. He said he felt exactly the same when his passed away (DH was 18 at the time) but he promised me that that awful feeling will go bless him.
Bannana hope your bleeding and clots have calmed down. I called the ward yesterday for advice as am having sharp cramps but no bleeding. The nurse was great, explained that everyone has different bleeding after, some light, some heavy. I was freaking out as I'd been told mine would be heavier than my usual periods (which are horrific) so I was completely bemused at nothing. I have a carrier bag of maternity pads ready here. She did say though that it's really common to have nothing for a few days, whilst hormone levels are still high, then start passing big clots and bleed more heavily for a while. She said that the blood can pool in your uterus then be expelled as a big clot (egg sized!) So I wasn't to be alarmed if this happens......
Stepping directly into the realms of TMI I've also had terrible pains pooing, apparently this is completely normal too. It freaked me out no end at 5am this morning, I wish I'd been pre-warned. Give the ward a call if you are still worried, it really helped me.
Sure I hope you enjoyed your dinner, I've informed DH we are out for a walk and lunch tomorrow, it's no good being cooped up in the house.
Sending hugs to you all
Sorry to hear you are all going through this too. I found out I'd had an MMC on Wednesday at 12+2, there was just an empty sac.
I went for the managed route, which I think has worked, took a second set of pills this morning to make sure. I'm hoping it has worked because Friday night was truely horrendous.
Also not coping with emotions very well. We had been ttc our second baby for 9 months and I'm completely heartbroken it's ended this way. I'm just a mixture of numb and can't stop crying. I have to try and act ok for my 3 year old DS but the only thing keeping me positive is the hope of a heathy pregnancy/baby in the future (but feels so uncertain right now).
Wine isn't making me feel better either, just tastes wrong doesn't it?
Lots of hugs to you all
It is nice to know you aren't alone. A couple of people have already asked me how long will I wait before trying again 
I can't even think about that.
I really hope tomorrow is better.
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