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IveBecomeSoNumb Sun 14-Aug-16 19:35:28

I'm really struggling at the moment. I had a tfmr at 24 weeks a week ago and we have his funeral this week for close family. I have picked two songs, Ed Sheeran - Small bump and Aerosmith - i don't wanna miss a thing. But I've been asked to pick three and I just can't think of any my heads an absolute mess. Any suggestions kindly welcomed.

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ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Sun 14-Aug-16 19:38:28

I had arms of the angels at my daughters funeral and Billy Joel's lullaby at my sons.

I also listen to Mark Schultz He's my son a lot. It's a religious song, but can be interpreted a different way.

I'm so sorry flowers

IveBecomeSoNumb Sun 14-Aug-16 19:42:21

Thank you ElsaAint. I've been thinking of arms of the Angels, but everyone's saying my songs are too sad?!

So sorry for your loss flowers

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WantToRunAgain Sun 14-Aug-16 19:44:02

Annie's Song is beautiful.

So sorry for your loss x

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Sun 14-Aug-16 19:46:52

You are the one that should choose and you are the one who matters.

Other people's opinions shouldn't be a factor.

It's about you creating a special day for your boy however you choose to do so.

The best thing you can do is to be a bit selfish at the minute.

Take care flowers

omri Sun 14-Aug-16 19:47:46

If you don't mind opera; I just find Maria Callas singing Senza Mamma so incredibly moving. If you look up the lyrics translation in Google you will see what I mean. But even without knowing what her words mean, you can feel her agony so clearly just by listening to her voice. I often listen to it to have a great big cry and think of the baby girl I never got to hold.

Elsa's suggestion of Billy Joel's Lullaby is excellent too.

I'm so sorry for your loss flowers

Whataboutwhathuh Sun 14-Aug-16 19:51:15

Eric Clapton - tears in heaven
Beatles - a little help from my friends?

No one can tell you how to feel or what you "should" choose. Anything is ok and any decision is the right decision in the moment so don't worry too much about people's judgements on your choices. flowers

Itsalwayssunny Sun 14-Aug-16 20:55:40

We had REM everybody hurts and adiago for strings the classical original by Samuel Barber.

Pick whatever music you want, don't be worried by other people's opinions on your music choices.

movingforwardagain Sun 14-Aug-16 21:34:00

I requested some lullabys as that felt right for us and also a song that would make him move around in my tummy when it was on the radio

mineofuselessinformation Sun 14-Aug-16 21:59:11
I don't know if this will help, or not. I'm very sorry if it doesn't, but I also hope it might express the hope and wonder of your lost baby - either way, I'm very sorry for your loss.
I hope the link works as I haven't been able to test it.

IveBecomeSoNumb Sun 14-Aug-16 22:34:11

Thanks all, my partner and I have agreed on, Eric Clapton - tears in heaven, ed Sheeran - small bump, Sarah McLaughlin - in the arms of the Angels

Feels so awful to be planning a funeral for my little boy sad

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omri Mon 15-Aug-16 00:28:48

Three really beautiful songs. Lovely choices. Sorry you are going through this OP. Be kind to yourself flowers

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Mon 15-Aug-16 08:30:15

Really beautiful choices.

It is awful, nobody should have to plan their child's funeral.

Wishing you all the strength in the world to get through the coming days flowers

IveBecomeSoNumb Mon 15-Aug-16 10:57:56

Thank you everyone ❤️

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Impatientwino Tue 16-Aug-16 07:39:47

So sorry for you. Planning your child's funeral is something you should never had to do and the hardest thing I've ever done.

I lost my son at 39 weeks and his funeral was the darkest day of my life but somehow we got to the end of it and were still breathing and now we are nearly 5 months on. Back then I never believed we would be where we are today emotionally.

Don't worry about what anyone else thinks, this is the time to be selfish, do what is right for you and always put yourself first. Your health and emotional welfare are top priorities. Anyone who doesn't understand that you don't need around you.

I send you every strength to get through the coming months. Always feel free to PM me if you want to, even if you just want to swear a lot. flowers

IveBecomeSoNumb Tue 16-Aug-16 14:11:27

Thank you so much ImpatientWino xxx

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gingerbreadmanm Tue 16-Aug-16 14:13:38

ellie goulding how much will i love you

IveBecomeSoNumb Tue 16-Aug-16 19:10:42

Ah that songs beautiful! Never thought of that one xxxx

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LabRats Wed 17-Aug-16 20:39:17

I'm so sorry for your loss. flowers

We had Tears In Heaven at my brother's funeral (he was 13 when he died). It is a beautiful song. I have, to this day, not listened to it since his funeral.

DownWithThisSortaThing Wed 17-Aug-16 20:43:47

Sorry for your loss OP

'Songbird' by Eva Cassidy. The lyrics are beautiful

mineofuselessinformation Wed 17-Aug-16 21:43:48

'In the arms of the angels, may you find some comfort here' - another beautiful song. I hope it brings you some peace too. flowers

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Fri 19-Aug-16 17:12:32

I hope everything went as well as it could for you this week Ive

I hope you're getting plenty of rest and taking care of yourself flowers

IveBecomeSoNumb Sat 20-Aug-16 09:56:44

Thank you, his funeral was so so sad. I was in bits but I feel we showed him how loved he is and that he'll never be forgotten. Thanks for all of the support and suggestions. flowers

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