I'm miscarrying again - please hold my hand

[sizeofalentil]

Started bleeding heavily yesterday at almost 6wks pg. No pain or cramps, but a lot of thick red blood. There's enough blood for me to be certain that it's gone and this isn't just a bleed.

Have decided not to go to a&e this time (because they were so horrible last time eg. "not sure why you bothered coming here - most women don't…", "It's not my job to provide you with pads. You should have brought more. Well, it's not my fault you didn't expect a 7 hour wait to be seen", "Are you upset because of DV issues at home? No? Then why are you looking upset?").

All pregnancy symptoms have vanished and DH is bringing me a pregnancy test back tonight (have asked him to go to work instead of moping next to me pulling sad face) so that I can test again tomorrow.

Last time I had cramps and spotting and it happened slowly over a few days, whereas this just happened suddenly. Very sad but quite stoic - I did everything 'right', I even gave up caffeine, so nothing I could have done and I don't even have anything to beat myself up with this time.

[RoTo72]

Sp sorry you're going through this again, hugs xx

[Bimblepops]

So sorry for your loss, .

Please be gentle with yourself and know it wasn't your fault and that there was nothing you could have done.

[Mishaps]

So sorry to hear this. And also that you had such offhand staff when you went to A&E - that is not right at all. How could they be so insensitive?

Miscarriages sadly just happen and there is no blame to attach to anyone. Take care.

[WhatWouldFlopDo]

your hospital experience sounds terrible. I don't blame you for not wanting to go back. I wonder if these people think about what they've said and how it might have made somebody feel and feel bad afterwards or if they're so hard that they don't give it a second thought.

If you start to bleed heavily and soak through pads in an hour (I think) you might be best to call someone.

Co-codamol takes the edge off if you've got any in. Sorry that you're having to do this again, it's shit.

[BlueLeopard]

I am so sorry for your loss.

FWIW I was also treated in a similar offhand manner by the EPU on my second one so when it happened a third time, I stayed at home and my GP was happy to talk me through self-monitoring.