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Thank you to two very kind people

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Everincreasingirth Fri 17-Jun-16 13:52:05

On Monday i went for an eight week scan . I had had a very small amount of bleeding but was after sex which i read was common so wasn't really concerned i had a scan at 6 weeks and saw a heart beat and still was having pregnancy symptoms and just thought it would be a case of reassurance
and an early look at our baby . That wasn't too be. The scan showed a missed miscarriage. My first thank you is to the lovely nurse who phoned me back from the early pregnancy clinic to discuss my options. She was so gentle and kind and treated me with so much respect and patience. Even though i know she must have been busy she made me feel that i could spend as long as i liked asking questions and she gave me honest but compassionate answers. I work in the nhs myself and found it a humbling experience being on the other side. I hope that i also will remember and make sure i always treat my patients in the same way. . I had had no bleeding at this stage and so have carried on as normal , which involved attending a three day course for work (or would have been impossible for me to pull out). Yesterday i started to have very slight abdo cramps and a little bleeding but nothing that wasn't manageable so thought would be
fine to attend course today. During the
course of the morning stayed to bleed a lot and pass clots and was in quite a lot of discomfort . After having to change a pad twice in ten minutes and still leaking through to my jeans i decided i had to go home. I then had to walk ten minutes to get to my car. It was pouring with rain and by the time i got there i was soaking wet and blood had leaked out all over the thighs and back of my jeans. It was then that i realised i needed petrol as didn't have enough to get me home. Stopping at the petrol station i got out and could see the blood that had leaked out and could feel it still coming (tmi - sorry). I didn't know what to do as felt if i tried to get into the shop to pay for petrol i would bleed all over floor. . I was so embarrassed but ended up asking the man parked next to me if he would take my cash card and pay for my petrol as i couldn't walk in. He was so lovely- i dont know how i managed it but i gave him the wrong number to my card (my brain wasnt concentrating ) but he came out and said not to worry, to get home and he had paid for it. .. i tried to give him another card but he refused. .... Any miscarriage is foul. The emotional and physical pain is beyond anything. I am now in bed with pain killers etc and thinking about those two kind people make me feel a bit more at peace with everything. The lady at the early pregnancy clinic i hope to be able to thank in person however i am unlikely to see that man ever again and have no way of contacting him. .. if by fluke chance he had a wife/partner reading this then please thank him for me- i really am so grateful and touched by the kindness of strangers .

Everincreasingirth Fri 17-Jun-16 13:52:57


Everincreasingirth Fri 17-Jun-16 13:56:09

Sorry- just realised my username might be a little tactless on a miscarriage thread- was actually a reference to how as i get older i seam to be getting bigger- nothing to do with the increasing girth of pregnancy but aapologiseif anyone found that upsetting

DocMcFanjo Fri 17-Jun-16 13:57:45

That's such a touching post Ever.

I'm so so sorry for your loss and what you're going through. Kindness is so valuable at times like these and I'm so glad you got some.

Thinking of you flowers

Pornflakes Fri 17-Jun-16 13:58:02

Ever - so sorry for your loss. I suffered an MMC last year so I can relate. flowers

Stories like this do prove that there are lovely people out there. Be kind to yourself over the coming weeks, and remember we're here if you want to chat.

MrsHathaway Fri 17-Jun-16 14:09:58

What a beautiful moment in such a heart-rending day. As though angels walk among us. May he get the blessings he deserves.

And you: be kind to yourself, and may your blessings be not far behind.

Everincreasingirth Fri 17-Jun-16 14:13:38

Thank you for your words- think my hormones are not helping as feel very tearful. .. i just wish i had the forethought to remember his number plate or something - i must have liked such a sight- soaking wet, blood down my legs, puffy eyes and waving my cash card under his nose. ... It really is the very small things that make such a difference isn't it .

MyKingdomForBrie Fri 17-Jun-16 14:16:05

Oh Ever I'm so sorry. no words but flowers

Stellars Sat 18-Jun-16 18:40:10

Oh ever. I'm so sorry. flowersflowersflowers

Afreshstartplease Sat 18-Jun-16 18:44:54

So sorry to hear of your loss op, well done to those you thank in your post though it's good to know their are people like this in the world

Artistic Sat 18-Jun-16 18:51:03

Sorry for your loss, MC is heart breaking. Am
glad you encountered kind people who made your blow a bit softer. Hope you feel better soon.

Crasterwaves Sun 26-Jun-16 00:57:06

Sending you some un mn hugs and glad you met good Samaritans

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